My 14 year old daughter wants her belly button pierced. She doesn't dress provocatively.. I can't say why not

Question

Do nice girls get their belly buttons pierced?

Answer 1

Once I was 17 I went and got my belly button pierced and not to show it off. I'm 20 now and still a virgin in every aspect. It just made me feel a little more self-confident. I have many body "flaws" and I always thought my stomach was one of my better parts. It sounds silly but true.

I wouldn't say getting your belly button pierced at 14 is a bad thing, but I think 14 year old boys might get the wrong idea even if she isn't being provacative.

Answer 2

Like your daughter I am typical nice girl; gets good grades, helps around the house,etc. I wanted to get my belly button pierced at 14 years old because it was something I wanted to do for myself and no one else. Everyone deserves to have a little something special and a belly button piercing was mine. At 14 you're a little self conscience and concerned with body image and getting my belly button pierced made me feel good about myself. It may sound a little superficial, but it's true. My mom let me get it pierced and I'm happy she did. It didn't change the way I act or the way I dressed. It only boosted my self confidence. I still wore regular t-shirts and jeans and I only showed my piercing to my best friends when I first got it done. All girls don't get their belly buttons pierced to show off their stomaches, not all girls get their belly button pierced because everyone is doing it, not all girls have the same motives when getting their belly button pierced. Just genuinely ask your daughter why she wants it, if she gives a sincere answer and she really is a nice girl than why not. Piercings can be easily removed, if anything.

Answer 3

Of course nice girls get their belly buttons pierced, however, I think a 14 y.o. is really too young to do it. Belly button piercings have become a little "provacative." Your daughter is still a child, and in my opinion, there's no need for a 14 y.o to have her belly button pierced. I had mine pierced when I was 20 and still have it pierced (I'm 29 now) and there have been many times when people have made negative comments about me based on the piercing. It's not fair, but it happens. Your daughter will have PLENTY of time to be an adult and do adult things. Encourage her to be a kid for a little longer :)

Answer 4

Oooooo...14 is a little bit too young. Try this trick: since your daughter is still in her early teens, wait a long time (about 6 months to a year). If she insists that she still wants her belly button pierced, let her go and do it. She is probably in a phase right now which most teen girls go through. They want to do what they think is "cool" or "popular". Maybe she doesn't really want the piercing, and that she wants it done because of what the other girls at her school are doing. Just wait for a while for now, and maybe....just maybe, she'll change her mind. Let her grow up and mature more. Good luck with that!

Answer 5

okay, for one thing, piercings aren't what they used to be. People used to only associate them with "underground" societies. Nowadays, they are more main stream than anything. And as far as cancer, sombody's stupid.....Belly button rings don't cause cancer anymore than earrings do. That's some idiotic remark made to you (I pray in jest) to make you believe that they were something horrible. some people do it just because they do like piercings. Some do it to show off. I would find out your daughter's motivations for the ring. Most likely, it's because so-and-so has one. If that's the case I wouldn't be afraid for it. You said she doesn't dress provocatively, she's probably trying to find a way to express herself and this is a common way teenagers do it. Granted a lot more don't have them than do, but compared to 10 years ago.....there are a lot more. Oh, and if you do let her go through with it, make sure you know what you're looking for in a piercing parlor. research the parlors. Don't just go find one. Most of the places you can trust, won't even let a 14 year old get one. Just do your research. It's obvious that you know how to use the internet, so therefore use it to your advantage. There is a plethera of information out there for you to enjoy and use at your discretion. Don't take some of the idiots word for it (I still can't believe someone says it causes cancer), look it up for yourself. You made it this far by yourself.

Answer 6

I'm a nice girl and I have my belly button pierced. I view it as incentive to take care of myself. I got it done after having my baby. I got it done at age 28. And, I do not dress prvocatively.

I think belly button piercings are cute. If she gets it done just be sure to take good care of it. Get it done at a clean licenced place. It does hurt the piercing at first and when it's done, it's best to wear something loose fitting around the belly for the next little while. ie yoga pants.

If you have any other questions feel free to ask me.

Answer 7

Hey there! The answer is yes, nice girls do get their belly buttons pierced.

Getting off the track a bit. I used to have the same thought process as yourself. I guess you associate tattoo's and piercings with "Bad girls" or "Bad boys". I was surprised one day when a lady that worked with me (Extremely conservative) showed me that she had a tattoo accross her back. Naturally I was completely surprised and had no idea that someone who I pictured as the "perfect girl" would have such a thing.

The good thing is, it made me have a close look at my perceptions on tattoo's and piercings.

I now have a tattoo on my arm, which I hardly ever show off, but it makes me happy because thats what I wanted (Despite the fact that people may not always see it). Needless to say, when people do manage to see it, they are completely shocked that a "Good boi" such as myself would have a tattoo.

If it was my daughter, I would let her get it without a doubt. Sure their are consequences (Possible scaring etc) but if its what she wants, then I say go for it. Good luck!

Answer 8

Well, I'm almost 14, and I wanted my belly button pierced a few months ago too. Instead of saying "no", my mom just let me know of all the hazards and diseases that can be carried by body piercings. I drastically changed my mind after that.

Answer 9

I would say that 14 is a little young. When my daughter asked if she could get a nose piercing at age 14 I said no. Not that I was against it, but I said that if she wanted to do this when she turned 18, the choice was hers.. She is now 20 and has never had her nose or belly pierced. Peer pressure is not the niced thing but you dont want your children making decision when they are young that they will regret later in life.... They end up growing UP way to fast. As parents we have to try and still guide them as they grow. Hope that helps some ( ps at age 15 she asked for a tatoo, I said the same thing then...... to this day,,,, no tatoo)

Answer 10

I'm 17 and I got mine done when I was 16. I'm a nice girl, i'm a virgin, I don't show it off.

I do think because you are the parent you have to make a decsion on this, but just remember if you say no, and she does go off and get it done somewhere 'dirty and cheap', then you DO have rights.

I think 14 is a bit too young, although I know a lot of people who got theirs done at that age and younger. My mum told me she didn't want anything to do with it and I had to wait untill I was 16 (the legal age for piercings in New Zealand, with out parental concent)

I think if she gets it done she will want to show it off. If you come to the decsion that she can get it done, just let her know that it HURTS SOOOOOO MUCH!! And she can take it out, it's not like a tattoo that is permanent and when she gets pregnent (i'm not suggesting that will be anytime soon) she will most likely have to take it out anyway.

Goodluck!