My husband sends me emails of naked and semi-naked women. I find it offensive and disrespectful of me as a woman. He says he sees nothing wrong with it and views the female body as beautiful. I guess I don't understand why he feels the need to share that with me...and then he says I am "insecure." Am I wrong in wanting to know why he feels the need to view all these photos, and then send them to me?
2007-02-09 12:53:48 · 30 answers · asked by lsah1852 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The simple answer is yes. Men and women are very different creatures. Men tend to be much more visual in nature. We get turned on by "seeing" where women tend to be more emotional in nature and tend to be more interested in feelings. I think its perfectly natural for men to want to see naked women. It doesn't mean that your husband wants those women more than you. afterall, those pictures are just that. pictures where you are the real thing. Dont be so worried. and feel free to look at pics of hot naked guys if that does anything for you. You could use those pics to make your relationship more exciting if you use your imagination.
2007-02-09 14:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by alanpvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I think if you ignore this and brush this off, then you aren't addressing an issue that could potentially get worse. You are only looking at it from your point of view, which is feeling disrespected. Talk to your husband, the truth is that I think men like looking at naked women, they are hard wired that way. AND, just 'cause they like looking doesn't mean that they love you any less. This could be a couple of things, signs of a problem, addiction OR this could be his way of making sure he's not lying or sneaking OR this could be his way of seeing if you are interested at all. In my marriage, I have moments where stuff like this makes me feel insecure and unhappy, but then I also want to know what my hubby is up to. I would rather him be truthful and honest with me, and give me the option to participate or tell him to do it on his own time, rather than find that he's been lying and sneaking.
2007-02-09 13:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is harmless for most that do it but porn has created alot of messed up people,me personally I try to concentrate on seeing my own lady naked as often as possible,and I would be a little upset if I found out somone else was looking at her naked.
I am not saying I am right on this one but that is how I feel.
Maybe you should tell your husband if the female body is a beatiful thing that should be looked at ,you are going to show your beatiful body to some other guys that you think have beautiful bodies,it might make him rethink his views a little.
2007-02-09 13:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you check out naked and half-naked guys on calendars?
The question is whether you are insecure or he likes to look. Most men like to look at women, photos, models, or on the street. Women like to dress up for men to see as well -- people can argue about it but can't deny many do. The question is whether men act on it after looking. Only you know if your husband does that.
2007-02-09 13:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I do because I see my body all the time and womens bodies are so much more enjoyable to look at. As far as your husband sending those photos to you that is wrong on his part if you don't want to see them and you should ask him to stop.
2007-02-09 13:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by n0s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are hard wired to respond to visual stimuli but some are ignorant to the fact the we are more tactile, more auditory and not interested in seeing our own gender nude.
They do seem, however, to sometimes get a kick or two from shocking us or getting a bit of a rise out of us by sharing these same images. Not all of them mind you, just disrespectful pigs like your husband.
Normally I'm not into spiteful childish revenge but in this case I think you might try some homosexual nudity square into his email. I have a feeling about him. I think it just might bother him into silence.
2007-02-09 13:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ande 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal for men to look at naked women but the fact that he sends them to you concerns me. You need to tell him that it is fine if that is something he wants to do but you would prefer if he didnt expect or want you to view them. Good luck on this !
2007-02-09 12:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most straight guys like to see naked women, but I find it odd that he's sending the pictures to you. I think you are right to have some questions about his behavior.
2007-02-09 13:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by cy ko tic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you something. Either, he is hinting what he finds attractive and wants you to try and look like or he may be wanting to try a threesome or something. I have absolutely no reason to send naked pics of women to my wife, so I might just not understand.
2007-02-09 15:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Quant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok bipass the whole man woman thing.. get a grip.. the human body is beautful and exotic.. and if you stop being holy than thou think back maybe a sculpture or a painting even if you never looked at porn or what about that time you saw a guys that had a to die for backside.. come on . its natural and human. you do it he does it and when you learn that its human then you have have realistic expectations stop living in a fantasy world.
2007-02-09 16:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋