Why isn't my husband interested in having sex with me?

Question

I lost 50 lbs, I take care of myself, dress nice, I have a good job, we have no children, I quit smoking, and I'm not a nag. Other than the lack of, we get along fine and have fun together but I cant figure out why he has no desire?

Answer 1

My gut instinct is that he may be depressed, either clinically or just generally. A man who feels down about himself and about life isn't likely to pursue sex. He may go for porn or masturbate to avoid people and issues he doesn't feel up to dealing with. There are many more possibilities: Maybe he cheated and caught an STD, maybe his drive is down, maybe has other issues. The only way to find out is to ask and really pursue this. let him know sex is important to you and you want it to be fun. Then see what he says.

Answer 2

Have you tried asking him if there's a problem? For some, sex is overrated and that's what make them lose interest. If you are all that you say you are, then it's most likely a medical problem. Men have a hard time admitting to sexual problems. It make them ashamed or less then a man. Try talking to him and don't put pressure on him. Try to tell him you miss his touch and the way he feel , then he might open up to you. If he say nothing is wrong, then someone else might be taking his energy. But from the way you describe you all relationship, then it could Be medical or the weight loss. you know some men like us alittle thick.

Answer 3

This warrants an investigation. If you all have enjoyed a satisfying sex life before and all of a sudden it went cold, I would wonder if he is seeing someone else, and afraid he may burn you. Another possibility is that he may be having impotence issues. Only you would know this. If that is not the case, you need to find out what's goin on. Get talkin!

Answer 4

Maybe he had to wait too long and he's at the age where he isnt interested in sex anymore. Or the frustration mounted for so long he MAY be looking elsewhere. Men and women do have that in common. Sorry, I think it maybe too late. If you look as hot as you say, YOU may have to come up with something majorly freaky to light him up. GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

so if he does not seem interested at all wow then something is wrong. my husband would be all over me. yours it could be stress, some sort of male problem, he just could be to busy. if you try to get him ralled up and there is no reaction then maybe i would really worry. like if i tried everything and he said nothing like he was busy or sick or something to tell my why he was just not in the mood i would be thinking that there might be another woman. he always gave me an answer and would say maybe tomorrow or later.

Answer 6

well he could have some insecurities becuase you have lost weight and have a good job maybe he feels like you really dont need him you can do it on your own maybe you need to make him feel a little more needed talk with him and see if he is feeling kinda left out of the picture

Answer 7

Honestly, being with the same woman after awhile just gets old. Do things to spice up your sex life.

Answer 8

I don't mean to be disrespectful at all, but have you considered the fact that he might be gay? Just wondering because I've been in a relationship with someone who never wanted to touch me and that was the reason...

Answer 9

play hard to get if your husband know he can get it whenever he wants he may not want it...men like a challenge...if that doesn't work take him to the doctors he might have low testosterone.

Answer 10

Ok ask him
and take him to a doc