2007-02-09 12:48:09 · 23 answers · asked by baby jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes people just grow apart (especially if you started the relationship at a young age). It is normal and it just means that it is time for you to move on to other things and people.
2007-02-09 12:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sled Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really didn't give much detail as to why you feel the way you do. The only thing I can tell you is people do grow apart, and if you tried everything to make it work, then staying with this person is not fair to them. Because if you don't have no feelings left for them you need to move on. The worst thing in the world for someone is to be in love with someone that doesn't love them anymore and I'm quite sure your actions are saying just that. So my advise to you is let them go and move on,if you feel that strong about it. Staying with someone that doesn't care anymore is not a relationship. Good luck
2007-02-09 12:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it happens. My friend was in a similar situation. She was with her man for 7 years and he all but wanted to propose. Then one day, she went home and broke it off with him.
Truth is, she started to feel questionable about the relationship way before it hit the 7 year mark but since you're in it for so long it's like a safe bubble to keep.
You have to realize that if the feelings are gone (or at least you feel it waning out) you have to tell the other person to keep it real and reassess your relationship. 8 years is better then finally realizing and breaking it off in 15.
People grow apart, diverge in interest and life, get bored with the routine. Who knows, maybe later you'll discover a newfound love for the person. But right now, all you can do is sit back and reevaluate where you want to go.
2007-02-09 12:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by KD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you do have feelings left. The fact that you seem to have no feelings at all is because you have "numbed" yourself to your anger, frustration and resentment. Clearly you have been in it for a long time because there was something in it for you. It probably started off good (or great). Gradually it wore away. As it wore away you became sad, angry, frustrated, resentful. However, keeping those strong feelings at the top of the list of feelings you live with every day is exhausting. So you bury them, deny them, forget about them. But they are there.
It's time to get away and get some perspective. You may either find that you are happier (relieved, etc.) without this person. Or you may start to miss the person and remember why you wanted to be with them in the first place. In either case, distance and time will help give you some clarity. And help you regain your awareness of your true feelings.
2007-02-09 12:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have outgrown the other person
Possibly the person has abused or mentally abused you
It could be that your relationship has reached a "rut"
Perhaps you see that the relationship is not moving at a pace that you are comfortable with
Maybe you've become attracted to someone else
Maybe your partner has cheated on you
Perhaps your partner has a habit that you cannot deal with
Maybe you are just burned out on this person
Possibly you feel that you have missed out on 8 years of your life
2007-02-09 12:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because after an 8 year relationship you learn more about that person and sometimes that really changes things, whether its for better or for worse, sometimes its better to learn sooner rather than later,and if you have no feeling left for the other person its better that you didnt let the relationship ponder.
2007-02-09 12:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by tishapixi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a marriage, talk it over, go to counseling and see what can be salvaged. If it's just a relationship, then free the other person to find the one for them. Don't waste time. Life is too short to be unhappy.
2007-02-09 12:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Snobunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. Maybe you are tired of the routine, maybe love faded and life became boring with one another. Maybe you don't pay attention to one another as you used to. etc etc. You just want something new and different and being in this relationship (unless you fix what is wrong) doesn't help because what it is, "is."
2007-02-09 12:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by cherry-o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we fall out of love. You might find you've still feelings and very strong ones if that person was to walk out on you.
Reassess your life in general and see what you need to do to either mend the situation or step out of it altogether.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 12:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your feelings, weren't coming from Your Heart. You know, that thumping sound, in your chest? It wasn't playing his Song. And he couldn't hear yours. So, it went by way of Cassette Tapes. Next time. Listen to the Ticker. It won't lie. It won't hurt. Go in Peace! Outta here!
2007-02-09 12:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋