I very recently split with my girlfriend of three and a half years, more her choice than mine, and the way she is acting is hard for me to deal with. We are still living together as we're still good friends but it seems all she wants to do is go out and "play the field". Its only been a couple of weeks and i'm still devastated and couldnt even start thinking about doing that for a long time which is why I find it difficult to understand why she doesnt feel the same way. Im still desperately in love with her. Is her reaction normal? I would love to get back together but I think she really doesnt care. We talked about marriage and children, so to go from this to nothing makes it worse!
2007-02-09 12:19:19 · 19 answers · asked by meotote 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cry, chocolate, talk, cry....
some advice. Move out. You really shouldn't be together any more, make it a priority and get independant, or you'll end up hating each other.
2007-02-09 12:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shes clearing you out of her life mate and right in front of your face. How many guys then, it will be yeah my b/f oh yeah well that was 4 5 6 8 100 guys ago. Women deal with it in different ways. Marriage material she deffinately is not.
You gave the answer in the question as she dont give a crap about you.
Move out or kick her out
Friends hmmmmmmmmm if she was she'd not mess about IN YOUR FACE.
YOUR NO MAN YOUR A CARPET
Sorry to be so harsh but WAKE UP
2007-02-09 20:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by wullie711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in every breakup their is always one wanting to leave and one destroyed over it. the one who left will feel empowered especially if she is dating someone new, unfortunately the other one who did n't want the split is just devastated over it. she doesn't care hard to understand this behavior over someone we loved and still love, but it happens everyday, and maybe there is some reason for this, a reason u do not know yet. i think sometimes we choose different roads, as we may have different things to learn from life. her reaction is quite normal for a woman not in love, she will only feel pain if it is her getting hurt.doesn't really bother her to hurt u, no compassion or respect, u saw what u wanted to see in her, put her on this pedestal and worshiped the ground she walked on, but there was something u failed to see going on. the pain takes time to get past, first thing u have to face reality, and see maybe she wasn't this perfect girl that maybe she did do u an injustice here.
2007-02-09 20:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mentally she broke up with you a long time ago. I think this was something that had been on her mind for awhile, that is why she is now ready to party. But man, you've got to get out of that apartment. I don't care if you are still good friends it's not healthy for you. How are you going to react is she brings someone home for the night. Can you handle it? You shouldn't put yourself in that situation. What if you meet someone and she finds out that you and your roommate used to be lovers, how do you think that would make her feel. That would probably end that relationship. Get Out, Get Out, Get Out.
2007-02-09 20:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by zart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to kick her out....she's using you as back up and as a security blanket. She will never figure out what she's missing if you are still there, even as just a friend. She has to go out in the cold, cruel world and figure it out on her own. This is totally not fair to you. She wants to play the field, then let her, it's her loss, and you will probably be better off without her. However, there is the slight chance that once out on her own, she will come to her senses and realize what a dope she was to break things off with you, but I wouldn't keep my hopes up on that part, she obviously doesn't care that much about your feelings if she's flaunting her playing the field.
2007-02-09 20:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. It is...trust me, it will rubber band back. Maybe that feeling is masking her depression...and she would wrather act out like that than be a lump of sad clay.
I am sorry. I dumped my boyfriend after I had a family tragedy and I compleatly regreat it. I was miserable but I acted like I was happy and that has made it worse. Now I want him back so damned bad I can't sleep, eat, or think straight. I am barely functioning. And the best part is, he still loves me...but doesn't know if he wants me like that. So I hurt myself even more in that...despite how emotionally fucked up I was at the time. I would gladly have married this guy if he would have asked me at any time during our relationship. Even now, if he flew in and asked me, I would get in my car with him and go to the court house first thing in the morning. I love him, desperately.
So maybe she is moving on, maybe she is masking it.
2007-02-09 20:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not a good idea to still be living with her now that you are broken up and she has every right to be dating and playing the field since she is single and available again. her reaction is quite normal and maybe one of the reasons she is dating is because she is hurt and on the rebound and maybe she wants to hurt you too. Let her go and live your life and you go on with your life.
2007-02-09 20:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully u treated her with respect and honesty if so then its her lost most woman want a good man some woman feel lock down and want to be free and see what else is out there she will run into someone that want treat hr right and then she will run back to u but dont be her doormat get out the house hang with true friends and find you a life without her good luck
2007-02-09 20:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're not all the same..we all react differently..she could be in pain orjust not care really...however, when girls start to play the field right after a break-up it sometimes means they are trying to fill the void and cant be alone for long..she may be hurting..try and speak to her and see what she says...if not just move on mate..
2007-02-10 04:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by gg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and find somebody else who will want you for you she dosent sound worth all the heartache if she is acting like this after sutch a short time apart and find a new flat to get away from her shes not worth it and yes im female and we dont all act like this you will find love again just start loking and get over her
2007-02-09 20:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by zeuse 666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your right she really doesn't care to be acting that way but her reaction is just that its her not all women have the same reaction..
2007-02-09 20:26:39 · answer #11 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋