how do you defeat shyness?

Answer 1

You need to identify why you are shy, and work to defeat those items. For example, some people are shy simply because they lack the social skills and confidence to function well in social environments. In that case, you need to figure out how to hone your social skills to feel more comfortable around new people.

If you want to take a more direct approach, you just have to decide that you aren't going to be shy. Put yourself out there and do the things that you were previously "too shy" to do. You have to decide within yourself that you want to live in such a way, and to hell with the consequences.

Answer 2

You have my most heartfelt sympathy--only those of us who have been shy know the pain of not being able to force our mouth open and uttering just a few words. As the others have stated, work at it. The butterflies in your stomach will insist they need to escape when you open your mouth, but just swallow them down, stand tall, look that other person in the eyes, and speak. That's what I did 30 yrs ago when I was in my 20s, but it wasn't until I finished my BA 4 yrs ago that I discovered that education gave me the confidence that I needed to feel secure within myself. I wish I would have known 30 yrs ago that more knowledge was part of the answer to overcoming my shyness.

Answer 3

shyness is the feeling of one's inferiority but people who are not shy feel no such thing.. however they may be less intelligent and brillant that some shy people... so defeating shyness by slowly considering that one is not inferior to everybody is a first step...

Answer 4

by being confident in what you are speaking about. try to steer conversations to topics you know about.

also, what is the worst thing that can happen in a conversation or social event?

Once, I went to walk across the quad when I was in high school, and decided to jump over a bench. I totally landed on my face, but I got up and walked along with my friend as if nothing happened (but we totally laughed about it). The whole school saw, but really what are they going to do? the worst they can do is laugh and as long as you see why falling over a bench is funny, they can't affect you.

Answer 5

I found that a six pack of bud usually cures all my shyness. But be shure and let somone else drive!

Answer 6

By following the Nike motto: Just Do It!

Answer 7

hum. it sounds stupid, but when i'm a being shy I hum and then i feel les self concious. self concious ness is usually what makes people shy. also, talk to friends and then with them include more people in your conversation.if you're with friends you usually feel better.

Answer 8

You don't shoot i'm almost 18 and still shy !
good luck!
Let me kno the answer myself once you find it!

Answer 9

As with any problem. Face it head on

Answer 10

i don't know, it seems the older i get the more shy i become