how can you communicate with an adult adhd victom?

Answer 1

Use direct sentences-- no innuendo. Instead of saying, "Gee, the driveway sure needs shoveling," you say, "Please shovel the driveway."
If this person is involved in self-destructive behavior, tell him or her that their actions are hurting you too. If you try to tell them that they're screwing up, they will just resent you and be even more stubborn. You need to show them that you are being hurt as well. Appeal to their sense of justice, and try to put them in your shoes.

I have ADD and Bipolar Disorder, and my mother has late-diagnosed ADHD. My husband and my Dad have both developed communication tactics that force us into full comprehension--making simple, direct statements and requests; making sure that there is full eye-contact during conversations; and not attempting to give guidance or advice while we are in an upset, irritable or defensive attitude-- unless it is asked for specifically ("Do you think I should do this?"). My hubby and I often make life-changing decisions while watching funny movies, so that my emotional attention is distracted by the storyline, while my ability to be rational is not distracted.

Just remember not to have a patronizing attitude, and to speak of how the person's actions affect you. You are more likely to illicit a positive response if you don't come across as a parent telling a teenager what to do-- because in a strange sense, that's what you are doing...

Answer 2

same way you communicate with everyone else. In fact you have probably communicated with a few people who have ADHD and didn't even know, cause beleive it or now we don't wear signs that say " I have ADHD" and its not usualy how we start a conversation.
Also people with ADHD aren't victims.

Answer 3

someone dealing with adhd should be communicated with just as anyone else would be

and people are not victims of adhd

Answer 4

Both you and this person need to read the book "The Davinci Method". Watch the movie here: http://www.areyouadavinci.com/