With all the divorces out there, is it easy to find someone or are they forever bitter?

Answer 1

I know couples who are married to their 3rd spouse & have been married for over 30 years. So no, I don't believe people stay bitter forever.

Answer 2

To answer the first part of the question I believe that it can be easy to find someone if you do not look. I met my wife when I stopped looking and being happy with just myself. As far as the second half of the question I disagree that they are all forever bitter. I speak from experience due to my wife is a divorcee. She is not bitter at all. There can be some that will be forever bitter because that can't forgive themselves or can't live life on its terms.

Answer 3

I have found the most bitter of men are the ones that had children and didnt get married.

Alot of people seem hung up on their ex, especially if the relationship or dating was 2 plus years married or not.

I recently had my closure with my ex so I can fully move on and my baggage (please dont count kids) would be trust issues surrounding drug use.

Bitter- No. Resentful of feeling like I was lied to and lead on -Yes but he is only one man...

We all carry scars but some people just arent healed yet. Maybe they will never be fully.

Learn the lessons that break ups show and move on.

Leave bitter and the ex at the curb thanks.

The only good aspect of this- you can see how a potential further mate deals with stress, tension, coping, etc. I was turned right off someone when he started going on about his ex. I wouldnt want him talking about me that way or treating me with disrespect like that. Ex's just may show some of the bitter bitters true colors.

Answer 4

I think that the world had gone through such a downhill as it progressed, ironic, yes. With all the laws and regulations being tampered with and modified (just look at all the instatement of gay/lesbian marriage now, sorry if I offend anyone but this is MY opinion) that humanity has sunk to an all-time low and will continue to do so as long as this crap happens. That's why the divorce rate had gone up in recent years: people aren't easily satisfied with one partner and feel as if they're missing out on the "fun" stuff. In other words, people do not have the patience to just give their relationships a chance to grow (and that is only going to grow through the combination of rough times as well as good times). They want the "good stuff" right away and when the marital bliss had dissapeared then they often feel neglected or used. So in conclusion, it's not that easy anymore to find that "true love" in today's world... and it's often questioned with sarcasm by most in wheter this "true love" even exists at all.

Answer 5

Forever bitter, but also easy to find.

Answer 6

Not everyone is bitter because of divorce. My 1st husband was a gambling addict and went to therapy but he didn't really want to stop, so I said goodbye. No regrets here. He still gambles to this day.

Answer 7

not all people have the same mentality when it comes to the break down of a marriage. if he/she is bitter about the divorce and talks of nothing else then it might be a good sign that he/she is not over the hurt that goes with a break up of a special bond...

Answer 8

you only stay bitter if u choose to. after divorce it is hard but u just have to get back out there, reach out for what u want, don't allow the divorce to steal your future joy. sure u were given a dirty deal but life does go on, wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing he had destroyed my future, we are responsible for our lives, so we need to leave the victim mentality and get on with what life has for us, and forget what was done to us.

Answer 9

Find is absolutely the incorrect word.


YOu must develope and constantly nurture any relationship for it to remian healthy. Loving and supportive words, and actions consistent with those words, as well as consistancy., dependability, are required. Daily thinking of how to make the pother happier, and doing something about it. Caring, sharing, cgood communication, learning to accomodate each other's differences and cherishing the fact you can love them for who they are and who they are not.

Watch Films: When Harry Met Sally, Forrest Gump.

Answer 10

You have to look for those who don't harbor bitterness. Steer clear of the one's that have all that baggage still in their head. Those are the one's that are a waste of time.