And because of this we are having lots of problems in my home.I am confused what can i do. please advice me before my home is turnned up side down
2007-02-09 11:42:43 · 29 answers · asked by bidec 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him seriously. Tell him your concerns & tell him you just want him to ease your mind about them. Whatever has made you suspicious in the first place, ask him about it & see if he has logical explanations. If you're not happy with his answers then it may be time to seek counseling if you want to save your marriage.
2007-02-09 11:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we don't know and our five senses can't tell us we can always rely on our intuition to tell us something is wrong. when someone else comes into our marriage that's usually when the problems come too, as he doesn't want to be with us anymore, he wants her and it causes alot of trouble inside him. they will always say it isn't true because they just aren't ready to burn their bridges yet. chances are if your life feels as if it is turned upside down, that it's another woman in your marriage. just don't know what to tell u to do about it, because i really didn't know what to do, because i didn't see it although i could feel it. unless u catch him u will be last to really know.he is between a rock and a hard place, one minute feeling guilt the next wanting her and not u. nothing much we can do but ask him to go as he won't be able to even accept anything u have to say at this point, she has him under her control.
2007-02-10 05:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say when you know someone a long time, your gut is usually right...if he keeps telling you it's not true, tell him what your feelings are based on (I'm sure there is something else besides the feelings)...try to separate your mind from the problems at home for a while, try to do anything else to keep you from fighting..you could go to counseling, too, but I'm sure you know that...most guys don't wanna go anyhow.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 12:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what you do,and i should not be telling you this because its betraying my fellow man. first stop accusing him its allot easier to find out if the man thinks you don't suspect any thing, check his pockets good when you do his laundry look for clues, used condom wrappers,phone numbers, receipts, etc.. look at the phone records( cell phones) to. i no it sound sick but check his private area out when he comes home, you can tell if some one is dirty. some of the sign's that some one is cheating on you are not that hard to spot coming home late, and stuff like that. there are lots of books out there about how to be your own private eye. so just educate your self. but i would really advice you to just be cool for now and try to relax. because if you are wrong you could be pushing him farther away,that's if you really care about being with him. so in tell you find proof you should not be to harsh are it might be you that's turning your home up side down.
2007-02-09 12:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by devil weed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women should always follow their intuition. If you feel strongly he may be and even if he not cheating, something is wrong or you wouldn't be feeling like this.
Be your own investigator if you can't afford one: check the mileage on his car, and drive from your house to his work, or look it up on map quest and see how many miles he should drive a day to work and back, that could let you know if he is going extra places. Also track your money, if hes cheating, he'll be spending extra money.
2007-02-09 11:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by krissy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most married women, you have nothing better to do but worry about "if your hubby is cheating", For your information it is very common for women to do this.
Take your husbands word for it that he is not cheating until you actually catch him with another woman.
Don't listen to rumors, or other people, if you think he is cheating then you better start looking for the outright proof or you will drive him to do exactly what you fear he is doing.
2007-02-09 12:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having these feelings? Is he showing some cheating signs? Or have you found any evidences?
Try not to come into conclusions just yet until there're hard evidences. You could ruin your marriage just because you have a strong feeling without any evidence.
2007-02-09 11:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that your husband is cheating then have him followed. Hire a private investigator if you can afford to hire one. My ex was very sure that I was cheating on him and he hired an investigator to follow me.He did not find out anything because I was not cheating.He wasted all his money and found out nothing.He was the one who was doing the cheating!
2007-02-09 11:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have solid proof?Can you be wrong and just feeling insecure for whatever reason?
It`s really upto you as you know your husband better than anyone and of course he`s hardly likely to admit it anyway.The only thing i suggest is get someone to follow him,i know it sounds a bit mad but then you`d know and have proof.
2007-02-09 11:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, calm down.
Second, realize that eveything's going to be OK.
Third, pretend that everything is fine and put him at ease.
Fourth, track his every move and investigate phone bills, credit card bills and his actions.
IF, you find something, remain calm and confront him. IT'S NOT the end of the world. Just a new chapter in your life.
2007-02-09 11:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋