They say that girls can smell desperation, and I know it's true. But how do you cover it? What can I do so that when I meet this girl from highschool that I haven't seen in three years, she doesn't automatically sense my desperation?
2007-02-09 11:18:23 · 4 answers · asked by Jason F 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Just a little backgroud, she's 19 and I'm 21. We had crushes on each other in highschool but neither of us knew about the other's crush until after I'd moved away. We've been in e-mail contact since highschool, but this is the first time I've seen her since then. And to complicate matters even more, she had a boyfriend and I'm single.
2007-02-09 11:29:09 · update #1
read one of those slimy books like "the game".
then take the good lessons out of it. Heres a couple of pointers.
Reward girls who do something you like.
If she says something smart or funny - then you complement her.
If she kisses you then you do something romantic.
If you sleep together then you act interested and sweet.
Before that - if you are just aquaintances, basically you treat her like a guy. I mean, i still suggest opening doors for her and being gentle and you can play with sexual innuendo - but i mean just treat her like a casual friend.
If you all up in her grill with the eye contact and rushing your words and bending over backwards to please her - unless she is totally nuts about you, she will either be scared off or manipulate you.
If she is nuts about you THEN you can be goofy and tra-lala, see how it gets back to the rewarding the girl for doing what you wanted her to do in the first place.
This is the very essence of the game.
Another tip..
Dont be fantasizing about some relationship that does not exist!!!
That will really screw up your psyche!
If you must fantasize about her, do it about something possible, like a cool place you might take her or a witty comeback - an entertaining story.... If you start working yourself into a frenzy about having sex or getting married - or licking chocolate off her naked body, you will be doing yourself a disservice....!
And the most obvious answer of all is - don't be desperate!!!
If your opinion of yourself is so low that you dont view yourself as a helluva catch - then you need to start working on your own stuff and put relationships on the back burner. Learn a craft - read a book - volunteer some time - write a poem - paint a picture - whatever. Just get confident that you are smart and sexy - and that you will find the right girl.
good luck.
2007-02-09 11:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nicholas J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The scourge of smelly desperation can only be covered by the charm of a virus you don't wanna catch.
2007-02-09 11:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good shower, antiperspirant, and a look on your face that shows your confident, trustworthy self.
2007-02-09 11:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the time to act cool.
"Hi, great to see you .......um? Claire? Anna? Um..Anyway, how you doing. Oh, excuse me, I've seen an old friend over there I want to talk to"?
She'll come crawling.
2007-02-09 11:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋