My Boyfriend's dad is a complete nut case. We've been together for 3 1/2 years. And Chris and I had taken a break in September. I was raped in October, and Chris and I got back together shortly after. And a few days after I was raped, his family decided they hated me. Told Chris I had made the whole thing up in order to get him back. I sent them all Christmas cards, and bought them gifts and sent them over with Chris. Not one thank you. Now Chris is away for the weekend with his parents, when they got to the destination, the dad laid down rules. That he can't talk to me for more than 20 mins aday, and they have to be 2 seperate calls, morning and night. We had plans next weekend to go away, and his dad entered him in a quading poker rally knowing we did. So now we're not going anywhere. He treats me like crap and is trying to run me into the ground, trying to ruin me day in and day out, I honestly don't know what to do about this, I love hris more than anything in the world, but I don'
2007-02-09 11:17:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
t know what to do. I can't take it anymore. Chris's dad penalizes him when he stands up for himself, so he just doesn't. For some reason he still looks up to his dad. I need some advice please. His dad is making me feel evil, and I'm thinking really bad things that I normally wouldn't. (I'm 20, Chris is 25) If that matters.............
2007-02-09 11:18:48 · update #1
Does he still look up to his dad-or is he afraid of his dad? It sounds like his dad is very controlling of him. What is he wanting to do with his life?He needs to get away from them, his own place, job, life. I wish the both of you the best. Take care.
2007-02-09 11:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if Chris is 25 that makes him an adult. I would say if he really wants a relationship with you than he needs to stand up to his father. What I would tell you is that even if the dad is wrong. Continue to be nice to them don't give them another reason to not like you. Like I said if Chris really wants you he will make that decision as a man and not a son.
2007-02-09 11:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by mora fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His age does matter, you need to have a talk with Chris. It is time for him to put his Big Boy pants on, or you need to put on your walking shoes.
Chris is an adult and it is time for him to require his Dad to have respect for you. He's not a little boy any more, I can understand him showing respect for his Dad but not at your expense.
Stop and think about what your future would be like if Chris can't stand up for you.
This type of behavior makes me wonder if Chris is still living with his parents and if he is maybe its time for him to move.
2007-02-09 11:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Plain Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear this, but Annie is right. They don't sound like good people and Chris could've dropped out of the tourney. He's an adult now. But I'm only hearing one side of things.
Oh, and he's not your father-in-law. He's just your BF's dad. You can leave very easily and probably should.
2007-02-09 11:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by toplessone19700 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend's 25, why is his dad still making rules for him? He's old enough to make his own decisions, right?
2007-02-09 11:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Godblu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not free of dad at 25 he never will be ; drop him he im too immayure and he will never be there for you
2007-02-09 11:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋