Low Self Esteem/ Self confidence?

Question

I feel as if Ive lost my self esteem, self confidence. I just realised today I think... Some days I'm fine, then other days Im more self concious... What can I do to get it back?

Answer 1

Write down a list of all things that you can say to yourself, "I am proud of myself". Write a list of things that you find bother you and find solutions for them through somone you trust or a psychologist. Meditate daily and focus on the positives about yourself.

Answer 2

To get self esteem/self confidence back one may try the following :
- Have faith in yourself that you can do it;
- Have will power to do the thing as required;
- To gather knowledge to solve the problem or handle the situation arising out of loss of self confidence.
- To prepare an action plan and act on it for re-gaining confidence ;
- To act on this action plan and try not to stop till the desired objective is achieved.
Necessary help from friends, family members or relatives can be taken to over power the situation.

Answer 3

One thing I'm learning, is to treat yourself good!
now I know this probably sounds hokey, but it's what started working for me.
look in the mirror and look yourself in the eye, at least three times a day, and tell yourself I LOVE YOU, every day for about two weeks, and give yourself a hug. YOU ARE AN AMAZING AND WONDERFUL PERSON, and tell yourself that every day, whether or not you believe it, but because YOU ARE!! : ) it made a difference in my life.
look inside yourself and start a list of all the good things about you. even if it's stuff like, I ask good questions, or, I hang out with my friends, I go to school or work, I make myself dinner,I'm good at English, whatever. challenge yourself to grow the list. read through it every day.
hanging with people who are positive and support you is important. if someone or a group of people are cutting you down, seek other people who lift you up.
also learning how to set boundaries with other people to protect your whole being, can be as simple (and as tough) as just saying NO to people who want more from you than you can give without hurting yourself in some manner.
If you want, email me through this site after another 24 hours, and I'll share some more with you.
either way, best of luck.

Answer 4

Think about what cause your low self-esteem and try to fix it. Also, focus on the good parts of yourself instead of the bad.

Answer 5

"self esteem" is really over-played. It's good to have low self esteem if it's an honest assessment, because the pain of that assessment will encourage you to change. The real question is "Is your self esteem rational or not". If it's not, then try to take an honest inventory of the good, bad, and ugly about yourself.

Answer 6

Face yourself, not just in a mirror. Make a list of your abilities and pay attention to all your strengths. Treat yourself as you would a loved friend: Be kind about those things that you could've done better. Forgive yourself for any mistakes. Love yourself just as you are today. Encourage yourself to realize your dreams. Don't let fear of failure stop you. Do it, even if you are scared.

Answer 7

I have the same problem. Sometimes.
Look first u have to be nice to urself and not be so mean with ur person. Then treat people nice (really, weird but it helps). Also follow ur dreams. Focus on ur grades. Flirt with that guy u like, in a smiley sympathic way. Dress with ur fave color. TREAT URSELF TO CHOCOLATE!. Write down the plans 4 ur future. Write down what u like about urself. Listen 2 nice encouraging music like 'Unwritten' and 'I'm like A Bird'. SMILE!.
Wish u the BEST, cuz remember, u R the best. We all r best.

oxox.

Answer 8

Challenge yourself,with goals you can reasonably attain.As your successes increase your confidence,raise the difficulty of your challenges.You can't always win,but looking back over time will increase your confidence and feelings of self-worth.It's a process,be patient.

Answer 9

pamper yourself, dress yourself up and go out to a nice place. go to the beach and walk along the waters edge and you will feel good about yourself and all the stress will go away.don't buy into self esteem books they are only there to make money. talk to someone and let your feelings out what you are feeling that is making you this way.

Answer 10

I suggest writing a list.
Make a list of you good points and the things you need to work on.
Then, keep adding and subtracting from the list as you progress.
Sometimes it can be tough fixing things, but keep trying.
Eventually you will figure something out. It just takes a while.

This makes a lot of sense to me.