A guy i know is really shy, and since he just moved here this year, hes seems lonely. I've talked to him a couple times, but i'm a horrible conversation starter, so any suggestions :) Also i haven't talked to him in a while, like a week. Do you think it would be weird if i just started talking to him, or would that seem freaky to just suddenly start talking to him. I was just a little down this week, so i really didn't feel like talking. But i really want to talk to him!
Thanks for answers!
2007-02-09 11:00:34 · 18 answers · asked by Momo 5 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
I go to woodlands highschool, sorry :( And this guy is in my gym class, so i can't really ask his advice for anything. And i tryed complimenting him on his shirt once, and ever since he hasn't worn that shirt. Theres just so much akwardness between us, and i REALLY want to get rid of it.
2007-02-09 11:17:44 · update #1
Just start talking. Ask him how he is, and how he's been coping with the new environment. Talk about school, about the things you have in common, find out what he's into, etc etc. Just small talk, basically. Some people just need to be approached first before they open up.
2007-02-09 23:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So is he in school with you??? Because if that is the case and you have him for a class then it's easier than if you just see him in the halls and lunch room. Ask him about the work. Tell him you don't understand something and that if he could help you. Or ask him how was his old school, city, state, etc. Notice if it is obvious that he likes something. Like a band or something, it would be great if you both had something in common. I just hate when a guy will barely answer since I'm a talkative person. However he might not be as shy. If he will still not talk then forget it. Why loose time with someone who is not interested.
2007-02-09 11:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best ways that has worked for me is to ask someones advice. People are almost always pleased to be asked. Another thing is, just in passing, to find something to complement him about -"hey, I really like that shirt" etc. Remember to smile. Finally, you can ask things like "did you hear that Anna Nicole Smith died?" or what ever is relevant to your life. In any case, something brief and non-threatening is usually best. If all else fails, just smile softly and say "hi' every time you see him. Eventually the right door will open for you. Good Luck!
2007-02-09 11:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in the wrong category. Try "friends".
ANyway, I would think that it was very weird! He might even think that you have a crush on him or something and feel awkward. Only start a convo with him when you have the oppurtunity. Don't just go up to him and say "What's up?" (That only works on TV, lol)
If he is wearing something cool, say "That's cool! Where'd you get it". Something simple like that. Don't try to force convo.
Good luck
2007-02-09 11:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really nice you want to talk to him. If he just moved there, he is probally shy. HE just needs a good friend. Dont worry, just start small conversations until he gets comfortable to where he is, and then you can start a big talk together. It will just take time.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-09 11:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it natural, Where do you see this guy? If its a bar ask what he drinks or what he thinks of the music that is playing (if there's any), if it's at work make a fake problem and ask him to help. The key is to ask open ended questions so he can't give one word answers
2007-02-09 11:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by mikester_tyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop something on the floor near him. When you got to pick it up engage him with small talk - or he may pick the object up for you and return it.
2007-02-09 11:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what his likes are...and go from there. For example, my husband was quiet and shy when I met him. I found out he LOVED Jeeps so I brought up Jeeps...(I did some research first) so i knew what I was talking about and we talked about Jeeps!
2007-02-09 11:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have any classes together simply ask him how he likes, it or how he likes where you live in general, he'll probably be happy that there's someone paying attention to him. So just be natural and don't get too forward...
2007-02-09 11:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him because i recently moved to Texas and nobody talks to me. people dont even give me the time of day. i moved in the middle of my senior year too. Do you go to D.S.H.S.
2007-02-09 11:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by alsimpson1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋