because i have been with someone for a long time and i still dont know.
2007-02-09 10:47:39 · 9 answers · asked by cooljoe7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you find the right bathing suit you know it....you don't have to ask anybody how it looks, you don't have to take it home so you can make a decision....you just know.
The same thing happens when you find the right person. It doesn't mean there are no wrinkles to be ironed out. It means you just know that you and this person are in it for the long-haul & you'll BOTH do whatever it takes to be happy together.
2007-02-09 11:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, it sounds really stupid, but you "just know". There could be several reasons why you might be unsure.
1) He is not the right person. Deep down, you realize that you wouldn't want to be with him "for the rest of your life", but it seems OK for now, so you're reluctant to break up.
2) You're looking for perfection, not finding it, and are afraid of "settling". But once you realize that no one is "perfect", and that someone might be "right" for you even when they're not "perfect", you can evaluate your options more clearly.
3) You are not very introspective, and have a hard time interpreting your own feelings, as well as the feelings and actions of others. You lack confidence in the choices you make. Learning from experience may help - don't be afraid to make mistakes; go ahead and choose. If you choose "wrong", you learn from it, and hopefully you will get better in time.
I'm sure there's more ways to look at it, but these are some of the things I've had to struggle with. Good luck.
2007-02-09 19:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know then there is something missing here. I knew after knowing my husband for a month or so and i still feel that way to day going on 9 years later. I dont feel that the person you are with is the right one for you if you dont feel this yet.
2007-02-09 19:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah i am at that place too.. i think that we just got comfortable with where we are at in life.. but my grandma says that if you can see you never diviorcing him on the day of the marirage.. its too perfect.. it wont last.. she also says that if theres 3 things that bother you about him they will bother you forever and you will never be happy with him. I say as long as he has a good job and is loving to you, i would keep him.. If you feel any doubt, then you should try and keep yourself available.. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!!
2007-02-09 19:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl303Rumor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy ? Does this person make you feel like you worth it ? Does that person makes you feel beautifully? If you see yourself thinking about the future and you can't wait to see this person or just talking to this person on the phone gives you butterflies then he's the one.
2007-02-09 18:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he is not for you. You know when it's the right person 100%.When your not sure I say dump him your just wasting eachothers time!
2007-02-09 18:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know. You think you know and then you get married, you have a kid and then after ten and a half years of marriage you find out that he cheated on you. You can never tell cause men suck and can't be trusted ever!!!
2007-02-09 19:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You feel it.
2007-02-09 19:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by Randa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just fill it
2007-02-09 18:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by heatherlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋