Mothers everywhere?

Question

I just wanna know:
Who cleans your house: you, your kids, or you pay somebody to clean it (i.e., a maid or maid service)?

My mom makes me clean *HER* house and I'm sick of it! Sure, I like a two story house but I didn't think I'd have to clean it everytime. *ONCE*....that's how many times she's taken over my job! Ladies, hear me out, she's never even washed the dishes or take the trash/recycle out on those days, *I DO IT!!*
I know taking the trash out may seem like a man's job, but my dad is busy in AZ right now with the navy and all.
What are your opinions?

I know that us kids have chores and all, but what are they really for? So that our parents can relax and do nothing while we're so tired by the end of the day?! I wanna relax too

Answer 1

This may or may not be true of your personal situation, but it's what's happened in my house.

I had one son of my own who I raised by myself for 17 years. Then I met a man with 4 kids whose first wife was a complete slob and never taught the kids the first thing about cleaning up after themselves. I love my husband and all of the kids dearly. But for months I was doing nothing but cleaning day in and day out. I would clean the kitchen after dinner and 20 mins later it was literally covered with peanut butter and jelly, juice cups, muddy shoe prints, coats on the floor, underwear tossed on the table (that one sent me way over the edge) and dirty socks wherever they happened to land.

I really did try to retrain the recalcitrant slobs, but it was a losing battle. I would literally clean 14 hours a day. As you've found out, it's really not fun to clean that much.

If I could have hired a maid, I might have considered it. But I'd be embarassed to have someone see what slobs these 3 boys can be. The solution was to start giving each child a dose of their own medicine. Everything they left laying around the house got confiscated. It's fun when their shoes are taken away from them in the middle of January and they want to go to a friend's house. They only get their things back when they clean a room from top to bottom MY way (aka actually clean, not just everything pushed to the sides and piled up) and they start taking care of things. If they're on a particularly big slob kick, then there have been days that they've had to clean the whole house.

There is no way to make people respect all of the work that we do for them until they have to understand how to do it for themselves. Maybe you're not as much of a slob as my kids, but maybe it's a lesson your mom is trying to impart upon you, as well.

Answer 2

I clean my own mess. My children have chores, but they are very young. There chores consist of changing the bathroom garbages one day and cleaning all of the door knobs another day. They have these chores to help them with responsibility. They really are helpful to me too. Growing up, I did EVERYTHING. I have many brothers and sisters that still live at home and still don't do anything. Well, they are slobs and the house is not very clean. When I lived there, it was always clean. I have to say, my home is always clean. I am much better off now. I am now thankful that I know how to do everything and i have the discipline for doing it. I even enjoy it now. Good Luck! =0)

Answer 3

I do 98% of the cooking and cleaning for me, my husband, and my four kids. They're all young though, 3 in diapers so I can't really expect them to do any. My oldest whose 7 is starting to do a little like putting away his laundry and making his bed.

It sounds like you are doing more than your fair share. Sometimes children need to be the parent, if I were you i'd make a chore list and start handing out tasks to mom or anyone else in the house. Or call your dad and tell him he should pay for a weekly maid service b/c his wife is not stepping up to the plate.

Answer 4

If you live there you should clean your own room . she doesn't have a cleaning lady because she has you, she doesn't sound one bit fair. do you pay rent? then by all means NO you shouldn't have to be her cleaning lady. wouldn't it be nice if you could both share chores. Is she old and not capable? I don't imagine as your dad is in the navy, my opinion for what its worth is she isn't being one bit fair or showing kindness. sorry. ps i clean my own house as i wouldn't be satisfied with anyone else. i know i'm an ole fuss pot...

Answer 5

if your mom is working full time i think that the kids should contribute to the maintenance of the household.. if your mom is just lazy maybe your dad can talk to her and tell her to shape up or ship out! maybe you can make a list of the chores you like to do (cmon vaccuuming with your ipod on is fun!) and tell her that what is on the list is all you are willing to do. my mom worked 12 hour days and so us kids had to help out alot around the house...

Answer 6

Nope....I clean everything! Although I would love help from my 4 kids, I rarely get it. My hubby could help too, but doesn't. I don't like it but that's the way it is.

Answer 7

i do most of it but i do have the kids help after all they helped make the messes and I have a full time job outside the home...

Answer 8

I clean my mess. Unfortunately, I also clean my husband's mess...my sons' messes. Is you mother bed ridden or something? How does she "make" you clean it?

Answer 9

My son and I share the housework... less time me cleaning more time to play for him...

Answer 10

I clean my own mess