2007-02-09 10:20:52 · 16 answers · asked by James P 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, the A is it is normal! But DON'T switch therapists! You are experiencing feelings for one of your parents, sibs or significant others from your past and NOW is the perfect time to explore those FEELINGS with your therapist. As others have said, a good therapist knows what is happening, won't act nor take advantage of you, and help you through many ambivalent conflicted feelings from the past. You'll get through it--and be much better for the courage of facing those underlying thoughts/urges!! You'll be able to more fully experience the present!!
2007-02-09 13:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Martell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could be--but seven years after you started? That makes me wonder what you have been doing for the rest of these seven years. It seems strange that this urge has hit you suddenly after so many years with this therapist.
For your own good, you should ask to transfer to a different therapist--this one hasn't done much considering you've been there for seven years anyway. It is not healthy for a patient and therapist to start a relationship--or even have a one-night stand. It could mess up your head more, and the therapist could be fired if anything were to go on between you.
2007-02-09 18:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is perfectly normal to start feeling that way about your therapist. Espeically if you've been seeing them for seven years. Just don't ast on those feelings! They could lose their job! But if these feelings are getting in the way of your sessions then you should probably find a new therapist. If might even tell your therapist how you feel and they might be able to help more.
2007-02-09 18:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Darcy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been in therapy for a long time now and have grown close to this person and have also learned to trust this person. It is not healthy to want to sleep with your therapist and any therapist that would sleep with their patient would be out of line. It is time for you to make a change and seek out a new therapist before it is too late.
2007-02-09 18:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are attracted to people with dominant personalities, and you view your therapist as some sort of authority figure. Do yourself a favor and see someone else, because youve been with the same therapist for too long. A good therapist is someone who helps you overcome your issues ASAP, not lead you on for 7 years.
2007-02-09 19:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra O 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep. That's transference down to the "t." It is definitely time to move on to another therapist. At the very, very least talk to your therapist about it, but trying a new therapist is definitely the best option you have. Whatever you do, do NOT give in to your feelings. You will get hurt, and could ultimately cost your therapist his job. Good luck!
2007-02-09 18:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have grown too emotionally attached to your therapist, 7 years of telling someone your problems and this is the result but you are merely a client and their source of money.
Your therapist has probably got a lovely family and if you slept with them you'd destroy everything they cared about, change to a new therapist you have grown overly attached something that is not healthy and is not good on your behalf because you "think" you care about them yet they only see you as a client and nothing more.
7 years of telling someone all your personal problems will do this, but I doubt they feel the same way back, find a new therapist before you ruin their life or they dislike you when you tell them how you feel.
2007-02-09 21:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes
2007-02-09 18:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have similar problem except that I don't want to sleep with my therapist (we have the same gender) but sometimes I think my spouse wants to sleep with my therapist... no joke this is real.
2007-02-09 18:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by typical dude 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Seven years seems a long time, have you become dependent on your Therapist? Maybe time for a change.
2007-02-09 18:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋