Okay, So I messed around with this woman before, and we messed around a lot!!! I can also tell she really enjoyed it. I am in love with her very much, and she once told me she was in love with me too. Now she is saying she is straight (and we messed around like a month ago) but 2 days ago she started texting me acting kind of flirty, and I started acting kind of flirty back, and she said "okay you need to stop talking now lol" and I said oh yeah? and she said not b/c your turning me, your gorgeous, but I don't like females, I would have to be smashed out of my mind to have sex with a female. She told me like a month ago also that she thought of me while having sex with a male that she is involoved with, and thinks about being with me almost every night. She got text messaging on her phone just to talk to me, and also made up a myspace just to talk to me. I am so confused, I don't know what to do, I am seriously in love with her. She seems confused to me, Should I make another move?
2007-02-09 10:20:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would leave her alone, she sounds confused. I don't know if it was her first sexual experience with a woman but maybe she needs time to think about it.
2007-02-09 10:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the others who have said that you need to cease all contact with her.
Perhaps she is confused or perhaps she is playing you selfishly while keeping her own "safe" other existence. Either way, it's terribly unfair to you.
As long as you allow someone to get what they want without having to make the necessary sacrifices to get it, they'll gladly take it from you and leave you standing there holding the bag. I would suggest that you tell her, on her MySpace, in person or whatever, that you can no longer have any contact with her unless she is truthful about her attraction to you and also in a position to consider a long-term relationship, not just some convenient thing on the side while she keeps her safe "straight" external image.
It's possible she might decide that she cannot allow you to walk away from her, and do what would be necessary to pursue a bona fide relationship with you. I'd still be wary in that situation though, if I were you.
Either way, you shouldn't put yourself in a situation where you're apt to be taken advantage of. This woman sounds like a selfish and manipulative person.
2007-02-09 19:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not walk, but RUN away from this woman! She is jerking you around, expecting you to be her private dancer and wait on her and be there when she wants. Just ignore her calls, do not accept them as bad as it hurts. Trust me, you will get more self-respect that way. You will never find happiness with someone who can't be happy (and she can't be with you, she's already said that). She's to paranoid about being gay. LEAVE HER ALONE if you ever want happiness in your life. She will never be happy, she may be content, but she won't be happy.
2007-02-09 19:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I would have to be smashed out of my mind to have sex with a female" says to me, "I have an attraction to females that I can only acknowledge while under the influence of substances, probably because I have shame issues and I can blame my homosexual behavior on the substance instead of taking responsibility for it myself."
Have fun with her if you want, babe; but I'd be very, very careful about becoming emotionally close because you're in for heartbreak if you do.
You can do better, and you deserve better.
2007-02-09 18:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay away from her. She's obviously confused. I'm not saying she's a bad person or anything, I'm sure she's wonderful, but as much as it hurts to not be with her, you'll be more hurt if you continue to have your advances rejected.
2007-02-09 18:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kahlen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay Char,
Sounds like she is playing you. Go ahead, but it will probably end in a crash, but you may enjoy the ride.
Dr. Phil
2007-02-09 18:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like if you stick with this you're setting yourself up for a lot of heartbreak.
2007-02-09 18:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you treat her any differn't than any other guy??
Move on ! being Lez you make the rules just like everyone.
Why bother if she is flip floping toss her back.
2007-02-09 18:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her to the curb
2007-02-12 18:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by TIGGER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋