Why do ex husbands HAVE to pay their ex wife alimony?

Question

I can see child support.. but why would an ex have to pay a wife just for being alive??? I don't understand that

I understand splitting assests and all that... but why alimony

Answer 1

Only if the wife has been a house wife during the whole marriage, and has no training in which to support herself

Answer 2

They HAVE, NEED and SHOULD pay alimony in cases where the wife was a homemaker/stay at home mom due to this being the agreement during the marriage and/or the husband betrayed the family by having an affair. Even then no amount of money can really make up for the betrayal. I once heard someone say this one guy was getting screwed because he had to pay his x-wife so much money but the real truth was he screwed her and his children by being very selfish and not realizing and appreciating what he had.

Answer 3

They don't nowadays. Most courts no longer award alimony unless the spouse is disabled and was BEFORE the divorce. However a court may award temporary alimony to be paid to a "displaced" spouse if she didn't work outside the home prior to the divorce. It usually lasts for six months which is the same amount of time for unemployment insurance benefits. Basically it is to help support the displaced spouse with child care and transportation while looking for gainful employment. Once the "displaced spouse" is employed the payments cease. This came about after the passage of the Equal Rights Amendment.

Answer 4

Same reason some women out there have to pay their ex husbands. Because the recipients of alimony are lazy no good leeches who could not support themselves. Although on the bright side, if the ex remarries, the alimony goes away.

Answer 5

This isn't true in all states. There is no alimony in Texas. But I think where this does exist, it goes back to an older time when husbands traditionally provided a greater percentage of the overall support for the original family unit.

Answer 6

Nope, sometime the lady pays the guy alimony, and usually in this society where women work as well, when it is over, the assets are split, and if no children, even they aren't an issue.

Answer 7

Most women who get divorced do not get alimony.

She'll only get alimony if she worked inside of the home caring for the family and her "working skills" won't allow her to make a decent living.

Or if they have children there's a reason the children need her to be at home with them.

Less than 10% of women today get alimony.

Answer 8

Because some wifes need it for support. Like staying home and raising the children etc. or some wife are unable to work, so the ex husband must support her as the relationship failed.

Yes some women use it as a way to hurt their ex however there are ligit cases where the wifes need the support of their ex to survive..

Remember its up to the Court... not anyone else

Answer 9

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She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.

She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.

Answer 10

I receive alimony. I took way less than 50% of the assets and left the company we started together to him.

I stayed at home for 10 years, had children, cooked, cleaned and did all the office work for his company (he started after we got together). I am also the one that saved, budgeted and invested. I took care of every detail that allowed him to go out and function in the 'real world'. At one point in our realtionship I was working and he wasnt and I took care of him. He asked me to stay home after having children and I agreed. Domestics duties dont exactly translate into resume potential and full time care of kids, hubby, company, home and a large property and the odd course and volunteer work didnt leave alot of time for other things. I was quite happy and so he was he. We split due to his bussiness partner using a lot of drugs and getting my hubby hooked on coke and unwilling to get treatment.

Every womens situation is different but please dont be one of those gold diggers after a recently divorced man...
I have heard from other women that left their hubbies and left with nothing (as they together earned nothing) that another women doesnt deserve alimony-cause they want the $$$ to take care of them (and kids). Dont be an EX HATER. She was there first and he right along side.

My ex and I went through 10 years of sharing. We each have responsibilites but he gave his word to take care of me. Alimony helps me personally to go back to school so I can get a better job to take care of my children. Otherwise, we would probably be on welfare.

And for a good laugh I heard his power was turned off- not due to no money. Things that I used to do that he still cant figure out how to do himself !!!!

Dont devalue women who raise children and stay at home while married. It takes 2 to be married and make those decisions.