I'm married and can't seem to get my husband interested in sex with me. It's been years. Found out months ago, he said it was because I was fat. I've put on a few lbs since our marriage 10 years ago, but I don't consider myself fat. I'm not sure this is the reason...I suspect there is something else going on. He never communicates with me on the subject even when I approach it. The only thing I hear is that it something we have to work at, but I don't see anything being worked. What should I do...?
2007-02-09 09:59:55 · 18 answers · asked by Chix D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you haven't had sex in years and you're not catching him masturbate regularly than he is probably having an affair or a serious problem getting it up. Don't bring up the affair first if you ask about either one.
Try the romantic thing mentioned earlier with disregard to the ignorance in the statement. Some candles and perfume should show him that you are really looking for something.
You can even just try giving him a night of all out his pleasure. Let him have his way with you or satisfy him in other ways than vaginal intercourse. Maybe an amazing unexpected BJ. If that doesn't spark his sexual interest and make him want to reapy you he has serious problems.
2007-02-09 10:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor. Take care of yourself. I know this hurts but I too went through this with my husband. I am not fat simply out of shape. He never touched me either. I started dieting and toning my body without saying a word to him. I wore loose clothes so he could not see my progress. The more I did it the better I felt about myself. Once in awhile I would change in front of him or go in the shower while he was in the bathroom. I'd catch him looking. Tease him and let him know how it feels to be rejected. Go out with friends and you'll see he will come around. If you suspect its something else confront him about it. Tell him it hurts you and he cannot treat you this way, if this does not work I would seek help. Good Luck!!!
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2007-02-09 11:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by tmcmvd 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to put down the twinky, get off the couch and go get some exercise. What guy wants to have sex with a potato laying on the couch all day in her sweats?
Lose some weight, get some exercise, take a shower, put on some decent perfume, and some sexy negligee, light the bedroom with 10 candles, and rock his world.
Send me your picture, and I'll give you my honest opinion. If you are not fat and lazy, then maybe he's having an affair with a hot sexy trainer from the local gym......somebody who has lost some weight, got some exercise, took a shower, put on some decent perfume, and some sexy negligee, lit the hotel room with 10 candles, and rocked his world
2007-02-09 10:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-01 21:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
greet him naked when he comes home. do some sit ups or walk each day after 1 month you'll see a difference in body shape I am handicapped with a bad back I gained alot of weight after 3 surgeries just now starting to lose weight after 1 yr of therapy. just keep positive attitude about weight loss and how much it will positively effect your life. and imagine how you look naked I seen a program on tv were you just stand in 1 spot and tighten the muscles in your body for 7 minutes a day. no lifting weights, no walking, no dieting. seems to have helped me after my new yrs resolution i can start seeing stomach muscles woo hoo.
2007-02-09 10:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by I race cars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many is a few pounds? 10? 200? It matters.
Sexiness has more to do with behavior than appearance. If you acts sexy, you are sexy.
Maybe you should take the initiative? Just jump his bones. Do him on the floor in the hallway next time he comes home.
2007-02-09 10:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd buy a vibrator. They out-last and out-satisfy most men anyway!
I suspect he may be having either erectile problems or an affair---because he is blaming YOU, and it's NEVER only one person's fault.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-09 10:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go right now walk out of the marriage get a divorce he is cheating on you!!!
2007-02-09 10:24:56 · answer #9 · answered by dev'smummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what the problem is and fix it. tell your husband to plug in and work harder at your relationship. both parties must want to fix it. if nothing else learn about yourself, what you are really all about. discover yourself, and a new beginning will happen.
2007-02-09 10:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋