both our parents really interfered with our wedding plans and are now starting to do the same how can we tell them to back off politely, also any suggestions for a cake.
2007-02-09 09:51:57 · 11 answers · asked by eileen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We had our silver wedding party nearly 3 years ago and we felt exactly the same as you!! We never got to have much of a say in our wedding so we decided that our 25th was going to be OURS!
I think the best thing you can do is continue to make arrangements for what you both want WITHOUT telling them....so you can say, we've organised that already.
If you need to tell them not to interfere, then simply say 'so and so' is arranging that for us (little white lie) In fact tell them you have been talking with one another drawing up all the plans and this is how it's gonna be.
You must claim ownership of this day, or you'll really regret it.
As for the cake a friend of mine had a tower of assorted small cakes, lots of cream cakes and fruit cake...it was really different.
We kept our own cake simple. It was two tiers, both heart shaped, but the upper tier was set at a slightly different angle to the lower tier, then we had 3 red roses (made from icing) on each tier in a small cluster.
Have a lovely celebration!
2007-02-09 10:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that although you appreciate their willingness to help, planning this party is your anniversary gift to each other. Explain that together you have had specific ideas about what you want, and that this day is as special to you as your wedding, but without the uncertainty and nervousness associated with a wedding. Thank them again for all their help in helping to organize your wedding, when things were hectic, you were nervous, and you really needed some help and guidance, but now, you have things in hand, and that you want to do this on your own.
By the way, congratulations. Silver anniversaries are pretty rare these days. My wife and I celebrate ours in eight months.
2007-02-09 18:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just laugh off the interferring, jokingly tell them if they insist on messing with your plans, they don't have to come. You've been married for 25 years. Suggestions for a cake, have a duplicate wedding cake make like you had for your wedding.
2007-02-09 18:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the cake and the two of you leave town for the anniversary. Don't let them mess this up for you both. Congratulations!! Hope you both have many more anniversaries together.
My wedding was messed up by parents interferring .
Italian Cream Cake is awesome!!!
2007-02-09 17:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married for 25 years, so you are obviously old enough to make a decision!!! Don't let them interfere - do what you want to do, it's your day.
Tell them politeley what you are doing, where it's happening and if they don't like it - tough!!
At a recent wedding fair - there was a tiered cake with individual handmade chocolate tulips with choc mousse inside them - looked stunning, but pricey, sorry can't think of the name but I'm sure if you went to a patissier near you they would be able to do something. Try novelty-cakes.net they do custom made cakes.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY
Good luck
2007-02-09 18:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book yourself a round the world trip so you won't be there for a party. If they insist on a present make it the currency of the country/countries you are going to. You can always bring them back a small reminder and it saves you having all the glass trays with "25 years" which end up in charity shops. Go for it!!
2007-02-09 18:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by coffee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a nightmare, But you will only need to do it once if that's any consolation. Then they will hopefully understand. Make sure you show your gratuity for their suggestions, say you'll think about it but have ideas of you own and you will decide when your ready. Don't be pushed around stand firm but in a thankfull and respectfull way. Good luck
2007-02-09 18:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by David R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with them, you are both adults in your own right and i think its about time you told the parents thankyou for the offer but you want to do this between yourselves...say you will let them know if you need them.Just says its how you too want it and its more romantic this way!
2007-02-09 17:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eileen -
You parents want to make it special for you... they want to be involved. The best thing that you can do is to find something
that they "can handle".....give them something to take care of...
like finding the "perfect invitation", etc. Something that is important, but not so important that you aren't willing to "just go with it'. That way.......everybody is happy. No hurt feelings and
everyone gets to help.
Good luck & Happy Anniversary.
2007-02-09 17:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell them what your arranging but listen to their ideas then still do what you want. your paying for the party they are just guests. or try saying that after all the trouble they went to to arrange you wedding you would like them to sit back and just enjoy this party.
2007-02-09 18:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by *♥* donna *♥* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋