Me and my husband dated for 7 years just got married about 1 year and few months ago. I am a very affectionate person, and iluv him and adore him with all my heart. Iluv to kiss him, touch him, please him everything for him, but he is not the same way with me. He said ever since i told him how come he wont be as affectionate with me like the way iam with him, he doesnt know why? he questioned himself, on why he is not like that, but dont get me wrong he shows me affection in different ways, but i guess i expect it back just like the way i show him affection, it hurts me he might want to be apart from me, and then leave me, what do i do please help, im heart broken.
2007-02-09 09:44:35 · 5 answers · asked by dream 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people are not comfortable with a lot of affection....it doesn't mean he doesn't love you just as much as you love him.
Your husband shows his love for you in other ways you just have to pay attention and recognize it.
Does he wash your car, buy you things, go places with you he really doesn't like?
In time he'll be more affectionate but probably never as much as you are.
2007-02-09 10:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad, i am like you with the affection. You don't give it only to get it back but that's just how you are. I understand that. You say he want time apart.... apart for what, like a break in the relationship or he want to go with his buddies on a trip for a few day? That makes all the difference. My man is also not affectionate like i am but and he likes to go on trips and such for a weekend with his friends. That's normal and i have found it helps our relationship in the long run. I how you and work through all your feeling. Good luck. If you wanna talk shoot me an email.. lulabell232000@yahoo.com
2007-02-09 10:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Randa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really be glad that your husband wants to spend time with you. This is a good thing:) Ask him why he does not show you affection back. I feel he was probably really hurt by someone when he was growing up. You need to have him go to marriage counseling with you to try to work on and save this marriage.
2007-02-09 10:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't like you because he isn't YOU. You are two different individuals he is not the type to show affection. If you show affection expecting it back exactaly the same then it's not REALLY affection. If you can't accept his form of affection then you're NOT giving affection, you are simply trying to buy his.
2007-02-09 11:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is human nature to give him what you crave yourself, from him.
he was probably not shown alot of affection growing up.
2007-02-09 09:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋