Every time the rent is due he picks an arguement with me so I wont have to talk to him for days. At then end I ended up paying the whole rent! because he knows I don't want to be homeless with my kids! So every Thursday, he starts warming up for the weekend so I could leave him alone! or he wont come up with money for groceries for the week! and yet in the middle of the week he asks to borrow money for gas! Every time I asked him where does he money goes? he doesnt have an answer or he has too many answers that I ended up getting a migraine and leaving things alone. He has been spending too much time with a male neighbor down the street! that to me I don't get a good vibe!! I could always move to my parents house or be on my own! which basically that is how I feel. I am very tired of all his b/s that I want to get divorce! but yet I still have a hope that he would change! Is there any hope? We only been married 4 years (my kids are from previous marriage) How should I handle this?
2007-02-09 09:28:24 · 21 answers · asked by Deyla C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kick his worthless *** out and don't give him a penny.
2007-02-09 09:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to the idea that he would be a responsible husband and father, and be committed to you and the family? From your description I don't get the sense that there is even any hint of this on his part. Instead he's managed to find excuses and ways to manipulate you into taking care of the family finances while he's off spending his own money and doing whatever he pleases.
You don't say exactly how long this has been going on, but it sounds none of this is very new. Sure you are hoping he will change--but how much longer are you willing to wait when there's the welfare of your kids to consider, not to mention your own. You aren't doing yourself and your kids any good by being willing to tolerate this much longer. It's never an easy thing to end a marriage--but maybe the time has come for you to trust your gut feelings and walk away from a losing battle.
2007-02-09 09:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by clicksqueek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many states, a husband who does not support his family financially is guilty of abandonment. This is legal grounds for a divorce. I'd move in with your parents and file for a divorce right away and don't give that worthless excuse for a man another chance at ruining your life. You and the children deserve a real man that will take care of you and own up to his financial responsibilities. Trust me he doesn't care about you or love you. If he di he wouldn't act like that. There are better men out there trust me.
2007-02-09 09:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 00:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sees you as a meal ticket. You've got his number, now leave. You have a place to go so there's no reason to stick around.
He's playing you for a fool. Take you kids and run fast and run far from him. Good luck.
2007-02-09 09:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and move to a smaller place that you can afford but without him. There is no hope in that.
He somehow believes you have enough money to cover for everything so he can do whatever he wants with his.
2007-02-09 11:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married for 4 years, but you don't have access to family finances? You don't know where "the money goes"? Sorry, but he sounds like a loser to me. If I were you, I wouldn't waste another day on him.
2007-02-09 09:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's NOT going to change. He was like this BEFORE you got married whether you wanted to see it or not. He will continue to be this way till the day he dies. It is up to you whether you want to stick with him in hopes of him changing but your kid's don't deserve that kind of life.
2007-02-09 11:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems to me that you are doing this all on your own anyway. The only reason I can see you need him would be for sex, and believe me, there are toys out there that would way outdo him. Kick him to the curb, and watch him roll in the ditch. There's more to life than a lame penis!!
2007-02-09 09:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like you have biological kids and one that you married. I would give him the threat that he needs to do his share. Marriage is supposed to be a team effort. Has it always been this way?
2007-02-09 09:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's doing drugs to me, thats why he's broke and thats why he hangs out with the guy down the street.Unless he cleans up and starts helping, kick his *** to the curb. Good luck
2007-02-09 09:40:12 · answer #11 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋