2007-02-09 09:21:40 · 25 answers · asked by ThinkingAboutIt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have not experience that.
2007-02-09 09:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on the couple. Perhaps it's not as exciting for them as it was when they were unmarried. Sometimes suddenly living with the same person, sleeping next to them, etc can be a bit of a culture shock. And they begin to take each other for granted. And then they try to solve this by blocking out 20 mins three times a week for love making, as though it was some sort of exercise routine (which it can be, hehe, but that's not the main point here).
For me and my husband, it's more now then before. I also think it's how you view sex. Is it something that you do to get pleasure for yourself, or something that you share with your partner? If you think the later, then most likely you will share more fun times in bed (or other places ;) It should be a sharing of each other, and in that there is an esctasy that is beyond all words. . More so then just concentrating on pleasing yourself. Which makes you want to make love much more often.
2007-02-09 17:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriages go through seasons. When the honeymoon season wears off, you start realizing this person can be annoying. You see all their flaws, they see yours, and you aren't that thrilled with sex. But then, you realize you love each other despite your flaws, you are with a wonderful person, and you start looking for ways to spark that fire again. Then, when you have kids, you are tired and, especially women, not so interested in sex after kids hanging on you all day. But then you realize, after you've been married a while, that the sex is even better that when you were first married. Now you know each other, you are better communicators and more comfortable with each other. We've been married 13 years, and the sex is WAY better now.
2007-02-09 17:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by rickylanphear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't happen to everyone I have been with my husband for 20 yrs married 17 and we have more fun now then we did when we were younger.. ;)
For some couples it does cut back they find it very hard to work all day come home take care of kids,house,feeding the everyone,getting baths,reading books to the children and putting them to bed..So by the time its time for bed they are just to tired..
How ever they can work around this and take time for just the 2 of them to be together..They can get a baby sitter, have family take the children, Or they can feed the children early and get them in bed..Then the couple can have a romantic dinner for 2 wine and candles the whole works ;)
2007-02-09 18:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by charmed4412 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At times it may because of kids and obligations but on the norm I don't think so. I have been married for 12 years and our sex life has never been better. You can be more open and experimental with someone you love and trust, so I feel it is way better when you get married.
2007-02-09 17:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Actually I could get better, but remember it takes 2 to Tango...If the man stops romancing, then the woman stop taking care of herself, then all of the sudden you're bored of your spouse. If the couple tries to keep the "flame" alive, if possible to enjoy a great HOT marriage!!!
When I get married again, (I'm divorce), I will be hotter than now. For woman is easier to open up sexually when she is married. I think is the "values" & "moral" thing.
2007-02-09 17:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by PRLadyDama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not when you get married - it's when the kids come. It's a whole other ballgame when there are small children that need attention 24/7.
2007-02-09 18:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by abby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that is necessarily true...depends on the kind of people you are...usually, in every relationship, as time goes on, sex will slow down a little, married or not. Then, some people go through phases, sometimes more, sometimes less...
2007-02-09 17:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by avechm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I would figure if the sex was good, especially if you were doing it before you got married, that it should continue to be good because the chase is over and you can relax more and let the tiger out of the cage. I certainly don't want my sexual activity to decrease once I marry the person I love, if anything, I want it to be more, more , more!
2007-02-09 17:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have not had a problem with that and I have been married for almost 10 years and I have 4 children and we still have a very active and happily sex life.
2007-02-09 17:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe people fall into ruts after awhile. Your life becomes rountine, work, go home,fix dinner,sleep. Oftentimes,people need to schedule a sex life in because they have so many things going on in their life. Stress also plays a toll. Illness too. If the couple has money problems, now that one will really put the skids to any romance. So, as you can see, it's many things and then nothing at all............it just is.
2007-02-09 17:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋