How to cope whenHow do I cope when I feel I have been a victim of manipulation? I feel I was manipulated by?

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my ex bf. I feel it was pretty severe. I have been to 2 therapists and now I am starting with a new one. Its been 7 months but it was so hard to accept. I was with him for 2 years.He layed the big suicide threats on me, b/c he was so depressed only to find out he got a one night stand pregnant. He would tell me not to call the police or he would kill himself. Then after I helped him, he left me for the mother of his child. I needed to know who I was dealing with so I did my own research.Come to find out he met this one night stand in a chatroom. He has picked up other girls in chatrooms. He did the same suicide deal on a previous girl, but she was smart enough to call the police, he told them she lied & did this b/c she was upset over the breakup.I called him recently to tell him I know all this, & he came back w/ a threat that he filed a complaint against me. I'm over him trust me, if he could sink this low. But the suicide threats all came rushing back to me,I feel he mentally abu

abused me. And he even has to end it with the harassment complaint against me. I feel he is a coward and cant even pick up the phone and confront me for what he did to me. He came off as such a good guy, clean, good family. Always frowned upon other's meeting in chatrooms, having one night sands etc. Now I exposed him and he doesnt like it. I did it for myself. I was fed up with all the lies and manipulations. The threat was false, I went down to the police station. HE is a horrible person. How should I cope with it now...for myself??

Answer 1

You definitely have been emotionally abused. This guy is some piece of work! Now you do need to concentrate on YOU.

Get some self-help books from the library--the type that make you feel better about yourself--improving your self-esteem
Positive affirmations
Meditation
Walking/exercise/yoga
A new hobby that you are really interested in
Taking a class that really interests you
Taking up healthy eating and living
Plenty of fresh air

I wish you a speedy recovery. It might take a bit of time and work, but you can, and will, get over it--and move on to better pastures.

Answer 2

Well.. at least he's no longer your boyfriend.. so.. just forget about the past and move on.

You should watch this film - http://www.thesecret.tv

I found it useful to think positive thoughts and forget about the past.

You need to relax, take a deep breath, and go out for nice walks in the park when you're feeling down. Do things you enjoy. Hang out with friends. Take some dance lessons.

And STOP thinking about the past, and live your life. OK?

Answer 3

i visit comprehend why you may sense you want treatment...yet actually ...he's the guy who needed/desires treatment... i imagine attempt to be grateful you at the instantaneous are not in a relationship the position you sense like you're forced to be with someone you dont prefer to be with. i imagine he's clearly disturbed--esp after his continuous threats (suicide, police involvement etc). Be grateful you're loose from that mess.--- existence is about residing and gaining expertise of:) i'm certain you realized plenty from that relationship and characteristic become an greater man or woman. Use that on your earnings... you'll quickly meet extra human beings. ultimately you'll meet someone who devoid of you understanding will make you ignore each little thing;)... You;re on a extra effective direction now...a lot less probs and concerns;) shop shifting on and doing what makes you chuffed;)