My daugther is nine and has not seen her biological father since she was three..The courts have order her to visit him 4hrs each weekend supervised due to a drug issue...How old does she have to be to say whether or not she wants to go??She has a father figure in her life and doesnt want to do the visit..
2007-02-09 09:08:42 · 10 answers · asked by ELVISLOVER 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
He is her biological father. She has a right to see him and he has a right to see her. How does she know that she doesn't want to see him if she hasn't seen him since she was three? You can't have any concerns regarding her safety since the visitation will be supervised. This might be a very positive thing in her life. At least it will answer her questions about him. The courts tend to get involved in ordering this kind of thing until about age fourteen. Why don't you be supportive of this, speak optimistically to her about how this might be very enjoyable for her, and use the four hours each weekend to do something that you enjoy?
2007-02-09 09:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every state code is different in terms of specifics... but in general, a court can LISTEN TO what a child says, however the court has the final authority. I don't think any state allows a child to make the final determination.
Your best bet is via your attorney, to present solid evidence to the court, that may indicate visitation would be emotionally harmful. The court has to balance that against testimony from the biological father, and how strongly he wants to be not just part of her life, but a healthy part ot it. If he is able to convince the court that he has "changed", it might be real tough to change the orders.
2007-02-10 05:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by wendy c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-09 17:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-09 17:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through almost the same thing. 13. Since I was 13 and my brothers younger I was the only one who got to choose. Supervised visitations would be best to start off with. Try and explain things to her as best as you can. My father did not want to visit me and it broke my heart and I thought I was the bad person all along. Please try to ensure her that she is a little angel. I hope everything works out with the both of you. Take care.
2007-02-09 17:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by wonderwomen582000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Texas, at 14 a child can chose to go live or chose not to visit a parent. The drug issue is another thing. Talk to your lawyer again about the situation.
2007-02-09 17:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Teesip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the UK, the rule of thumb is, the older the child, the more her views will be accepted.
At 9, she would have to have the maturity of say a 12 or 13 year old to have the final say.
2007-02-09 17:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by starchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, 20 is a good age for them to decide.
What is funny is that the "oh so tolerant" generation of folks who didn't spank, who actually believed a 6 yr old knew better than them, are now finding that the courts have taken up the same stance. It's unfortunate that mere children are given the power to have a say in what is in their best interest.
Some judges and law makers need a really good spanking.
2007-02-09 17:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by kathy059 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well our Judicial System sucks and if I had anything to do with it he would never see her...Check out your State Laws under Codes and Statues..Judge should have denied him his rights...This country has failed our children least to say. He's been out of her life for six years decides he wants to see and Judge gives him the OK just like that what ashame.
2007-02-09 19:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by youaskIanswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a drug addict? he doesn't deserve her... stupid laws
2007-02-09 17:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋