my live in bf has not respected my wishes on dropping this one gal friend who is very disresectful to me and our relationship and she request to continue being his friend even in secretsy and he does so even after our marriage he continues his secret " friendship" with her and continues to lie to me about it after promising he would end whatever with her as part of me saying I do and starting over.
does it sound like a fact that he is more comitted to her rather than to me?
and if he is more comitted to himself then why would he be more comitted to talking to her than to our relationship or respect?
2007-02-09 09:02:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if he's putting her above you then L E A VE H I M ! ! ! !
2007-02-09 09:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by da1U<32haT3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question. That is why you are here. Your boyfriend is going out with another girl behind your back, and you don't trust him. It sounds like you've talked to him about it. If not, then do so. Otherwise, you know what you need to do. You need to dump this loser and find a guy that will love and respect you and commit himself to you. If your man won't respect you, then respect yourself. Move out. Move on. You can do better!
Good luck!
2007-02-09 17:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it is a fact or an opinion is irrelevent. You are his girlfriend, and your wishes should be top priority to him. If he is lying to you about her now, he would continue to do so after you marry him. It appears that he is more commited to her than he is to you, or he would sever ties with her because he knows how much it bothers you. I would dump him if I were you, because marriage involves all kinds of sacrifices and compromises from both people. And people who truly love eachother are willing to make these sacrifices out of RESPECT for their loved one. If its not working now, it won't work after you are married.
2007-02-09 17:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is my opinion. Girl to Girl, do not tolerate disrespectful behavior from your man. If nothing was really going on and you meant EVERYTHING TO HIM he would ditch her and not look back. The fact that he hasn't but actually has done the opposite gives you your answer. He is most commit ed to himself, more committed to her and not committed to you or your marriage.
2007-02-09 17:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to ask yourself if, would you drop any one in your life is he were to ask you to do that.
The answer for both of you should be yes.
If any of you can't respect the other's feelings then you're on the road to hell. You have to change that course or get out of the vehicle.
2007-02-09 17:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person this guy is committed to is himself. He's lying to you, he's allowing her to disrespect you. Since he's only your bf, dump his sorry butt. You deserve better.
2007-02-09 17:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sorry but he is a guy and all most guys think about is themselves, money, and sex. i would kick him out if he doesn't stop.
love,
Pagan Princess
2007-02-09 17:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋