my live in bf has not respected my wishes on dropping this one gal friend who is very disresectful to me and our relationship and she request to continue being his friend even in secretsy and he does so even after our marriage he continues his secret " friendship" with her and continues to lie to me about it after promising he would end whatever with her as part of me saying I do and starting over.
does it sound like a fact that he is more comitted to her rather than to me?
and if he is more comitted to himself then why would he be more comitted to talking to her than to our relationship or respect?
2007-02-09 09:01:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Opinion.
2007-02-09 09:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's in a rough spot. How about telling him she needs to respect you and it is his duty to be sure she does. Then you wouldnt have a problem with the friendship. Tell him you dont want to make demands but the disrespect is not fair to you. Ask him to be your hero, rather than you being the enemy. Or, ask her what the problem is. Asking someone to give up a friendship isnt fait, no matterhow much you hate the person.
2007-02-09 09:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by jenn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He is not showing you any respect at all. Let him know that he is no longer a single man, he needs to choose between you and her. I'm sorry, but it really sounds like he's cheating. I've never known a man to sneak around and lie to his wife for simple friendship. If he respected you he would not let anyone treat you with disrespect. Good luck.
2007-02-09 09:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bail out now before yu have to go through a messy divorce, which you will be doing if you a have a shred of self-respect and self-worth left by then.
2007-02-09 09:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes i feel this is a fact in this case. If he does no tdrom her then you drop him and move on with your life. You should not have to put up with this kind of disrespect and treatment.
2007-02-09 09:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fact to me. If I were you I'd tell him to shape up or ship out. If he's not mature enough to do that, better cut your losses.
2007-02-09 09:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him no, you will not even consider marrying him until this girl is completely out of the picture.
2007-02-09 09:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him marry her. he is not respecting your wishes and he seems not to care about you. you will find a man who is willing to be with you and only you. move on dear.
2007-02-09 09:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he feels like this dump him for someone who really loves you.
2007-02-09 09:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is thinking more about her than you. tell him to go live with her. he has no erspect for the relationship
2007-02-09 09:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋