is not meeting my sexual needs. I've told her I am attracted to her and need to be with her...but she is always too tired or sick or that time of the month...I have tried to be patient but am losing it. Before we got married, we were doing it nightly...should I go through with the affair?
2007-02-09 09:00:43 · 51 answers · asked by Johnny A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before you do THIS to your wife, imagine how YOU WOULD FEEL if SHE did THIS to you. kinda makes you sick to your stomach to think the one you love is screwing around on you. believe me...
2007-02-09 09:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Aunt Mair á?¦ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. If you and your wife are having problems in the bedroom, you really need to see a marriage counsellor. There are a lot of factors that could come into play - have you let yourself "go" physically by not keeping in shape? Have your hygiene habits changed?
Having an affair is the worst thing you can do to someone else - it shatters all levels of trust between you and your significant other.
Ultimately, if you cannot work through this issue, then perhaps you should seek a separation and possibly divorce. Sleeping with someone else while you are still married and living together is just wrong.
2007-02-09 09:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee's ex-wife was cheating on him through there whole marriage of 4 years. They have 2 boys together. The fact that they divorced was the best thing for those boys. She was sleeping with a co-worker. She would bring home gifts and say they were from friends at work and talked about how much she didn't like the guy to try and throw him off. She finally admitted to it when she divorced him. He was told by people in town her friends his friends. He ignored it and thought no way this is happening. Don't be made a fool. Talk to her. If she denies it the do some snooping. How much more could it hurt your relationship? Her friends may just be joking but its not likely. I speak from experience that female friends like to rat their friends out in a "joking manner". I hope she isn't but if a dog shits once in the house and you don't discipline it will do it again and the same goes for cheating spouses.
2016-05-24 02:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bibiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that you are considering having an affair because she is not satisfying you sexually. Make sure she knows that it is not a threat to use to make her do what you want, but that you are in fact going to do it. I don't condone affairs in anyway mind you, maybe you should consider a divorce if your marriage is over, but if I were you I would first above all and before you tell her your considering an affair, get some marriage/sex counselling. You may learn something about your wife and relationship, good luck.
2007-02-09 09:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your wife, and tell her what you have been contemplating and why. See if the two of you both want to go into marriage counseling to work it out or get a divorce.
Make a clean break into bachelorhood BEFORE you sleep with someone else. Always be honest with your spouse from the get-go; that way your wife, your co-worker, and you, yourself can never beat you up for cheating. Be a man ... have some strength of character, and you will be able to look at yourself in the mirror.
2007-02-09 18:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kristi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it man, you agreed for better or worse if those words meant anything when you married her. Get over it. Fix your marriage, a piece of *** won't change anything and you may be overlooking some major health issues here, does herpes, crabs or how about HIV, do any of these terms sound familiar. Well just imagine if you contracted anyone of these diseases and transmitted it to you wife, how would that make you feel, what about the financal ramifications if your wife files for divorce. Think about it really well, get a divorce first then you can whore around with out a care with any one you want at least grant her her dignity.
2007-02-09 10:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Phillip M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you would be willing to throw a marriage away because you haven't been getting "yours" .
Have you thought that there might be something wrong with your wife? Maybe she is dealing with something in her life that you would know about if you would stop focusing on your own sexual needs.
Also most companies frown upon sexual relationships within the workforce and you could not only be setting yourself up for a divorce but also losing your job.
2007-02-09 09:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman who was in a similar situation with my husband.
Only he was the one that was too tired, too sick, etc, all the time.
I tried to be patient, tried sexy nighties, romantic dinners, massages, etc. with no success. I tried talking to him, but he'd just get mad and blame me for stuff like the housework not getting done right or something.
I, too, considered an affair. In fact I went through with a cyber one.
My husband caught me and we had a long honest discussion. Things are a lot better between us, now.
2007-02-09 09:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to your wife about your problem. Tell her how you feel and be honest. If she still doesn't come around, get a legal separation. Then, you can do what ever you want. If you have an affair and get caught, as most cheaters do, she can file for divorce and get almost anything she wants. It is a lot less headache to leave your wife than cheat on her and get caught. As a married woman, I would rather be told by my husband that he wanted to leave me for another woman than have him cheat on me and I catch him in a lie.
2007-02-09 09:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by invictus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and shame on you i have been sick for awhile myself and my husband has been great and is very understanding !! If you really loved your wife you wouldn't even think about being unfaithful much actually doing it !! How would you feel if the roles were reversed? I would tell her about it and set her free so some other man can really appreciate her because evidently you don't!! I pray you do not have any children because if you do what kind of example are you setting for them !! When times get rough RUN!!
2007-02-09 09:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by linda bug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How selfish. How can you say that you are attracted to her if you are seeking sex with a stranger. Its not always about sex. Think do you want your marriage to end? If so then do it. Don't cheat on your wife. Tell her how you feel and what you are thinking. Communication is the key to happiness. Try understanding what she may be going through. If things don't change I would seek counseling before cheating.
2007-02-09 09:10:11 · answer #11 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋