i just had my second misscarriage yesterday at 5 weeks, in september i had my first pregnancy which ended as a miscarriage at 8 weeks. i want a child but everytime i get pregnant i feel so good and have so many high hopes then it ends up in another dead fetus. why is this happening to me!! i dont even think i want to try to get pregnant again because im probably going to end up having another miscarriage. i know this wasnt exactly a question...but i dont know what to think right now. is there something wrong with me, will i never have kids.
2007-02-09 09:00:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't worry. I also faced miscarriages and well listen I had amiscarriage and as soon as I stopped bleeding I started trying again and well I got pregnant again the first time I tried. Now I'm 24 weeks pregnant and carrying a healthy little boy. Miscarriages just happen sometimes and there's nothing that you can do about it. Just try again because right after a miscarriage you are most fertile. Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss!
2007-02-09 09:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. There is nothing wrong with you. I'm sure you're a terrific person and these things are just happening without much reason. Is everything ok in your life otherwise, stress level ok, emotional level ok? I miscarried some years back and I was under major stress, my relationship was a bad one and I wasn't in a position financially for a child. I felt so empty because I took it personally. I was scared to try again, so 6 years have passed and I'm married to someone else, my life is set and we're having a baby. I had a looming feeling a dread during the first trimester (I miscarried 6 years ago at 9 weeks). I still sometimes expect to see blood when I go to the bathroom, and I haven't yet. My husband's mother had 6 miscarriages before she had lucky number 7 and that kept. If you want kids, you're going to have kids. If your situation is right, keep trying - just watch your stress levels. Hang in there, it will happen for you. When I miscarried an acquaintance told me that she could see the baby's spirit around me and it would always be with me. This made me cry then and still does as I write this, but years later I still find comfort in her words. Plus, you know what...I think third time is the charm for you. :) Stay strong.
2007-02-09 17:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think that what you really need right now, is an extremely good medical doctor, who you really, really trust a lot. If I were you, what I would do, is find a really good medical doctor that you trust a lot, and get a good recommendation for a really kind and nice and good obstretician-gynecologist. I really don't know if there is anything wrong with you or not, because I am not a medical doctor. But if I were you, then I would not give up probably. But if I were you, then I would get some really good professional advice from some nice and kind and good medical doctors. If I were you, then I would try to stay as calm as humanly possible, under the circumstances. I really hope this helps you out in some way. I like to help people, which is the only reason why I tried to answer your question. Have a good day, as much as possible. Bye.
2007-02-09 17:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been through this before...I had my first baby back in 95 and I decided I wanted just one more...So me and my hubby tried and I had two back to back miscarriages (2 months apart) I was like you ready to give up and was really sad ..Well I was going to get blood work done to find out why it kept happing to me and I found out I was pregnant again!! I was so scared to get excited...But in July 06 I had a healthy 8pds. 3oz. baby boy!!! I am also 15 weeks pregnant with #3 and all is going well...Please do not give up hope...Most doctors are not concerned until you`ve had 3 in a row....I hope the best for you..Good luck!!!
2007-02-09 17:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by bad kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to go to a fertility specialist - there could be something biological in your body that is causing your miscarriages - and it may be able to be corrected so you can carry full term. At least you may know for sure before you get your hopes up.
Your feelings right now are absolutely valid. It may help you to begin counceling to deal with your feelings. If you are able to get pregnant, it may help to have a way to deal with your fears and all at every step of the way.
Good luck!
2007-02-09 17:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for your loss. i can empathize, my first daughter passed away when she was a week old. losing a baby is an extremely painful experience, i'm so sorry this has become a pattern for you. what has your ob/gyn told you? they will be the only one to be able to tell you what's causing the misscarriages, if they can tell you at all. it's ok if you're apprehensive about continuing to try, that's completely understandable. you should take some time to yourself and make sure you're ready before you try again. my heart goes out to you and your family. if you ever need somebody to talk to, feel free to send me an email, i'll help you in any way i can.
2007-02-09 17:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start eating a well balance diet,and eat your fruits, and to top it off you should take prenatel vitamins,You also need to stay away from coffee,sodas,and chocolate that are caffinated,and if its decaf, then it's ok.when you first get pregnant, do take it very easy,because the first 3months,is when u can be subseptable on loosing it right away...need to stay stress free as much as you can, because it does play a factor, and don't worry it will happen for you when you are not thinking about it! then also check with your doc, about the meds you are taking, because that can some times interfear..Take care, and wishing you the best!
2007-02-09 17:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by latinaes4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE, PLEASE do not give up hope sweetie!! I know it's rough, I had a miscarriage myself, but I work with a lady who had 5 and had 2 beautiful, healthy children in between.
Maybe third time is the charm. Please keep trying!
2007-02-09 17:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you should try seeing a doctor.
2007-02-09 17:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mango Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋