What should do, my best friend won't talk to me?

Question

My best friend, Will wont talk to me anymore we havent talked in over 3 weeks. He wont return my phone calls he wont respond to any notes i give him (in school), he says he is busy but i know thats not true and he wont tell me the truth, so i dont know what to do please HELP i dont know what to say

Answer 1

Whether you have done something to upset him, or he is just ignoring you out of nowhere, you need to talk to him in stronger language if you intend to get his attention. And if he still doesn't respond, tell him to his face. Emails, notes, and phone calls are easy when you're angry with someone, because you can simply refuse to respond. But if you lock him face to face, he has no choice but to talk to you.

If you know why he is mad at you, fully explain yourself and apologize. After you have calmy completed that, you can go two ways. The first option is to say to him loudly that it is rude and inconsiderate that he keeps ignoring you and that he is ruining a great friendship! Tell him he'll regret this. Go on and on about how he is making a mistake. Eventually, he'll realize it too.

Or, you can keep your cool the whole time. After you've apologized and explained what happened, make the rest of the message light and fun. Say an insider to two. Crack a joke. Make him remember why he liked you in the first place.

You can do this in person, or on an answering machine. But if you choose to call, remember that if he doesn't contact you in return, you're going to have to confront him.


If you have no idea why he is angry with you, the first step is to try to figure it out. Talk to some of your other friends. If you truly can't think of anything you have done, then go ahead and tell him that you are clueless. Then apologize for the unknown, and follow either one of the actions above.

This guy owes you respect. Even if he doesn't think he so, he does. You have already tried to solve the problem. If you follow my advice, and he still doesn't respond, this guy really isn't worth your time. Wait a couple of more weeks- see if he misses you. And if not, it happens. Go shopping for a new best friend. One that won't drop you out of nowhere.

Answer 2

Ask him if you did somthing wrong? If you did you are sorry, if there is something or a habbit that upsets him would he tell you because you really appriciate the friendship and you don't want to do something that upsets anyone. Please tell you the truth, write this in a letter and he will have to read it. You are only human and make mistakes just like he does and everyone else, but like most people you want to know what it is thats upsetting him because you want to change. You want to be someone that everyone loves not just him and its important to you. Maybe he is going through something bad, have you asked him? It take two to tango and life is too shor to live with regret. Love and be loved Heather

Answer 3

Many years ago in my life - I was on about the 3rd or 4th year of co-habitating with a man. One day I put vinegar in the BBQ sauce - after he told me not to do it - and then - he didn't speak to me for 8 days. I apologized - begged - cried - whatever. On about the 6th day - I decided I didn't give a crap whether he talked to me or not. When he finally talked to me - he said that it wasn't just the "vinegar incident" that had ticked him off. He was really irritated with me for a lot of things. Whatever. We broke up shortly after that. We are still in touch and I brought that incident up to him a few years ago. He didn't even remember it. Well - I will never forget it! It was the point in our relationship when I realized he was not a very nice person - and though it hurt - I just moved past it - knowing that he was not somebody to whom I wanted to give a huge portion of my time.

Don't know what you did to upset your best friend - but his behavior is childish and cruel. Forget him.

Answer 4

give him some space and time ! if you don't know what the problem is than he is the one with the problem not you!! if he truly is your friend he will come around but don't force him:)

Answer 5

give him some space, maybe thats all he needs and then things might go back to normal, thats all you can do.

Answer 6

well you should have started the question with what you did to piss this person off. but anyways. this person if they are your true friend should forgive you no matter what.