Ladies, what do you think of men who ask their women to sign prenuptial agreements?

Question

This is the subject of Dr Phils show today. I believe you go into marriage with the determination that it will last and if you are already planning for a break up, you should n't be getting married. It seems men don't want to give anymore, they just want to take. I don't think much of a man who keeps score on who is paying for what. When 2 people join their lives, they both should own the property, no matter how little or much it is. It seems that a man wants the benefit of a wife, someone to do the housework and raise the kids, but wants to have "his" stuff like a spoiled child unwilling to share.

for third answerer, a husband is supposed to provide for his wife. A woman was never meant to work after marriage.

Answer 1

First pre-nup then something else. You enter into a marriage with unconditional love, trust and everything that goes with it. What would happen if God put a condition on his vows?

Answer 2

I don't think there's anything wrong with initiating a pre-nup, whether it's done by a woman or a man. It is always advisable for the other party to have their own attorney take a look at the agreement to make sure that both parties' interests are represented. I'm a woman, and you better believe it I would ask for a pre-nup if I had worked my a** off to build some assets (no pun intended) before meeting Mr. Right. My husband and I actually looked into signing a pre-nup before marriage, and consulted an attorney; but it looked like everything we wanted to list there was already covered under the existing divorce laws - so we happily dropped the idea. If you think we went into the marriage without ever mentioning or discussing divorce, think again; we have talked about everything that had to do with relationships, to make sure we were on the same page - and divorce is one of the things we have discussed. It would be naive to close our eyes and pretend it doesn't exist, or adopt the "it won't happen to me" mentality. I think, to have the best chance of avoiding something, you must first acknowledge the possibility of it happening.

A pre-nup is not some Draconian way to control your partner; both partners have an equal say in what goes in there. It is true that there are women out there who are letting their men bully and control them, and a pre-nup may be used as one of many tools to exercise this control. But this mis-use of a tool doesn't make the tool itself bad - many murders have been committed with a hammer, but that doesn't mean we need to toss out all our hammers.

Regarding your statement about "planning for a break up", I would like to ask you a question: do you wear a seat belt when you drive? You do? Oh no, you're planning to get in a car wreck! How can you be so negative? If you think you're gonna get in an auto accident, you shouldn't be driving a car!

Sounds silly, doesn't it. Well, this what all this fuss about pre-nups sounds like to me.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with asking someone to sign a pre-nup. Technically you arent entitled to anything the person bought before marrying you, but people contest this kind of thing in court all the time. Since the divorce rate is very high in this country, the only responsible thing to do is protect your assets. If you love him, then you dont need some gigantic settlement. Refusing to sign a pre-nup makes you look like a gold digger.

Answer 4

A prenup should protect both parties. But, to go with your characterization, it seems like some women only get married to find a way not to need to work anymore. Just like there are manipulative men, there are manipulative women.

A marriage is no guarantee that you can live with the other person. There are many reasons why a couple should be divorced. But, a prenup, if done right, should make a divorce an easier process.

Answer 5

Who's to say that its the man that always wants the prenuptial agreement? It can go either way. And all they are doing is saying that what I had before the marriage is still going to be just mine when and if we don't last. Whatever the two of you earn and buy/sell during the marriage is for you both to share or split equally if the marriage doesn't last.

Answer 6

Smart man. it could also mean that he does not trust the woman he is marrying. Why should it always be the guys fault. I have seen eqaul number of questions here from women who have cheated on their husbands. The world is just more sympathetic towards women, even though the woman cheat, but people say he must have driven her to do it. I still think at the going divorce rate in the US, smart man to have a Prenup, he is trying to protect his assests.

Answer 7

I think that any assets that one spouse had before the wedding and also anything that is inherited (money, estate, etc) should be untouchable by their spouse if they decide to leave them.

If I was really rich I wouldn't think twice about having a prenup. In todays world people are usually just after one thing ( not sex). That one thing drives people to do some unimaginable things in order to get it.

Answer 8

I wonder what advice Paul McCartney would give now ???
A Pre-Nup is a must these days...
Protects both man and woman....
A wealthy man would be a fool not to get a pre-nup..
A woman would be a fool not to get a pre-nup guaranteeing
her continued care should divorce occur...

Answer 9

for third answerer, a husband is supposed to provide for his wife. A woman was never meant to work after marriage.

Are you for real??????
Are you saying that a woman should never have to work after she's married? What planet are you from and what financial background are you from?

Answer 10

I agree with the first answer.