i want a boyfriend who will never cheat on me, be sweet and romantic... but i still i'm just being "pulled" to the guys that are exact opposite of that.
what do i do?
2007-02-09 08:40:07 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't have both. Personally, I've never understood the attraction to bad boys. Does it have to do with pissing off your parents?
If you want a bad boy, then get one. Just don't complain that he's a cheater and puts you low on his list of priorities.
2007-02-09 08:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pretty much, you're not going to find a "bad guy" who has the qualities you liked. So you're going to have to raise your standards a bit. Maybe try dating someone who's a little nice, get to know them before you dive head first into a relationship. My current girlfriend was always really into "thugs" and all the other D-bags who think they're cool. We got to know each other as friends for a bit, until she got wise and ditched the doofus who thought he was a "gangsta." Then we dated, and we've been happy since.
It may be someone you're not infatuated with right away. You may have to grow to like them over time. Give it a shot. take it slow. Bad Boys likes their chicks fast and easy.
2007-02-09 08:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by koepnick012787 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you aren't such a "good" girl as you think you are. Perhaps you are good at being bad and bad at being good? Something to think about. You may not know you as good as you think you do. We always have this theory that "opposites attract". What are his needs and yours when it comes to love? Does he want a girl that will cheat on him? Does he want a girl that is sweet and romantic? Ask him.
2007-02-09 08:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a male perspective I can't pretend to understand it, but maybe your thoughts are telling you to go for the good guys, and your emotions are telling you to go for the bad guys? I guess maybe you could try and give your thoughts more priority over your emotions. A bit like when women advise men to do their thinking with their brain rather than the other thing :-)
2007-02-09 08:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Groucho Returns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to only date hot, bad guys, but I married the sweetest, kindest, most caring guy I've ever met. He's definitely a geek -- not "my type" at all. But somehow it's worked out for almost 20 years.
2007-02-09 08:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by comet girl...DUCK! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep playing till you find love. just keep getting hurt and always give a guy atleast 2 dates. unless you are begging for the firstone to end.
2007-02-09 09:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by chucky w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat sister.
Good Luck
2007-02-09 08:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋