How is fair, when two people get divorced, to have one person who was not sucessful, did not bring anything into the marriage to get what the other had built over meny years?
And why are lots of women so opposed to pre-nups?
2007-02-09 08:38:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Women are opposed to pre-nups because they know if there is a divorce they won't get anything. Most women marry for financial security not for love and if divorced they want financial stability. A pre-nup violates that. Divorce settlements have to be changed. It is unfair that people who didn't do anything get half of the money. If there are chidlren involved then child support is expected but other than that nothing else has to be givne to the spouse. Let him/her find their own way in life and not suck the money from the more hardworking partner.
2007-02-09 09:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by cynical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to look at it is the follow:
W stays home every day while H works. W watches the children and cleans the home. W gave up her 50,000 dollar a year job when she had the children so that H could work. W also stopped going to night school so H could work. Because W did all these things she is entitled to money when there is a divorce, the money would go to the fact she gave up her job and she quit school.
It isn't necessarily that she didn't put anything into the marriage -- it is that she has to be compensated for what was taken away from her b/c of the marriage -- i.e. her job and education.
I have no idea why a woman would be opposed to a pre-nup. I would want my husband to sign one to protect MY money, including any inheritance I get (Brittney Spears is an example).
2007-02-09 08:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Partly, marriage is an institution, a legal one among others. Partly, many times the court will consider if the 'lazy' party put their own lives or dreams on hold to support the other in some fashion [staying home with kids or working while other went through school].
Many women are opposed to pre-nups because of the emotional connotation [trust, respect] and because they feel if they do get divorced, they should be compensated well for 'time put in'.
I like your attitude. You sound like a down to earth and smart cookie.
2007-02-09 09:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that poor men who marry rich women are afraid of pre-nups. That said, most people misunderstand them. Pre-nups go both ways, and your attorney should look it over before you sign it, regardless of whether you're the rich one or not. A good pre-nup protects BOTH parties. When you marry, you are partners. If you don't want someone to get all your pre-marriage stuff, get the pre-nup. If you didn't do it, then tough cookies. You made the commitment, now you are responsible for it. The legal means to protect yourself, rich or poor, are there. It's fair. I don't feel sorry for anyone in this situation. If they have the dough and get married, half of it belongs to their spouse if there was not a pre-nup. That is what marriage is. If you don't like it, get the pre-nup or don't get married. Or marry someone closer to your salary range.
2007-02-09 08:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think that things are supposed to be fair?
Anyway, if you really love that person, it shouldn't count.
Now, if you go ahead and say that the other deserves a portion of your money that you make from now on, then I think that's crazy.
I think pre-nups are stupid, and I'm a guy. If you're going to be married, might as well jump right into it. Just don't get married if you don't trust your partner.
2007-02-09 08:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually, marriage is supposed to be a team. One might become more successful than the other but it doesn't mean that both do not contribute to the marriage. The success of the one is often due to the other willing to take on the more mundane but obligatory tasks.
2007-02-09 08:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by scarlettt_ohara 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because if one party was not succesful and didn't bring anything into the marriage the other still chose to marry that person and chose to stay with them for many years. All breakups are both parties fault.
2007-02-09 08:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by meathookcook 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because with a pre-nup, they cannot do what you just stated.
2007-02-09 08:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because they want half of his income. I personally don't think that fair. When they spilt up everybody should go with what they brought in that marriage..Bur women... oh women... lol
OHH but reading the first answer I should say ...men oh men....Fair play!!!!
2007-02-09 08:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is why i'm going to marry a hot rich woman.
2007-02-09 08:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋