Ugh! my cheating ex-boyfriend Manny left me for a this white gringa! He claims that "white women listen to men more, and they give it up more easliy" I've heard this before for several ex-boyfriends. Manny is mad at me because I made him wait alomost a year utnil we have sex. I did this to see if he really loved me and resepcted me. But apprently he doesn't because he cheated on me and he said that he was tired of Caribbean women. I told Manny's mom and my mom and they both told me that were made at him for saying such thigns and that he should be proud to be Cuban and from the Carribbean. I felt so heatbroken because he open up another wound, I heard my own dad say that he would rather be with a white woman to my mom. I'm only 16 years old and I hear guys Black and Hispanic guys saying that they don't like dark skinned girls and saying that they only date white girls. They seem to praise white women and then bash their own black sisters.
2007-02-09 08:33:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
To my Black sisters, Have you ever dealt with this?
2007-02-09 08:34:12 · update #1
He doesn’t want a strong, smart woman... who can carry herself respectfully and with pride. You sound like a very good woman who only wants a true relationship. They're woman out there of ALL races just like you, and have gone through the exact same thing. You said it yourself she's easy and doesn’t speak her mind. Some men don't want to go through the hassle of a strong woman... And about the race issue; you are classified as a strong, well minded, moral woman who happens to be black. Women of all races have that exact problem, their man leaving them for someone who seems less intimidating. Not only black men do that. And for your frustration just understand that it isn’t you; it's them they’re the ones who aren’t man enough to handle you. Don't limit your love life to just your race... I don't see anything wrong with interracial relationships. I do however have a problem with men cheating on their girlfriends, wives, finances... but the bottom line is you are too good for him.
Just don't give up on black men completly. It's bad to think all black men are cheaters who only use black women until they can find a white woman. It's not fair for the black men who love us, they're good men out there of all races... including black men.
2007-02-09 09:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 2⤋
Excuse me. Tiger Woods isn't black, he's mixed with Asian and white. Also not all black men leave / cheat on their black wives or marry white women. What about: 1. Barack Obama and Michelle Obama 2. Jay-Z and Beyonce Knowles 3. Denzel Washington and Pauletta Pearson 4. Kendu Issacs and Mary J. Blige 5. Jermaine Dupri and Janet Jackson 6. Daniel Gibson and Keisha Cole 7. Isaiah Washington and Jenisa Washington 8. Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker 9. Duane Martin and Tisha Campbell 10. Lance Gross and Eva Marcille 11. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith 12. Samuel L. Jackson and LaTanya Richardson 13. Antonio Davis and Kendra Davis 14. Dikembe Mutombo and Rose Mutombo 15. Wyclef Jean and Marie Claudinette Jean Please Google these black men and see that they all stayed faithful to their wives and never left them nor cheated on them with white women. Stop creating stereotypes and lies. White men cheat too. So grow a third leg so that you can kick your own angry behind back into the darkness.
2016-05-24 02:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, gurl we have all dealt with this. Don't let it get you down. If a man (of any color) isn't smart enough to love you and see your value and worth then you are better off without him and he is better off with another woman period. The mistake these men are making is assuming that they can seek shelter with white women. Not all women are the same. Appreciate your beauty and strength. God made us strong for a reason. If not for our strength our people would have never survived. Black women are the saving grace of the black race. Just as women are the saving grace of humanity.If Rosa Parks had been easy to talk to would the Civil Rights Movement have begin? Our strength is just too much for some men who'd rather have things come easily to them. That's their problem. Nothing easy is every worth much. As black women we fall into a category of our own. We are a world apart from other women in terms of our depth. So, while it may hurt realize that it is HE and not you who is losing out. Hold your head high and expand your options don't limit yourself. You'll be ok.
2007-02-11 16:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not sure why you ask another woman to explain this to you. Makes more sense to me to ask a black man who is in an interracial relationship. Anything outside of this approach are just assumptions and ideas being traded back and forth,in most cases just to make each other feel better. Just my opinion.
2015-12-06 07:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by jeffery w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, Making a guy wait one year before you have sex is not a good way to determine if he cares about you. Don't ever underestimate just plain ole persistence.
Second, Its been my expereince that white chicks do try harder. In general(im just saying). Although, some white girls are chicken heads, and many black girls can be really down with you when they want to be.
With all that said. I prefer a black (the blacker the better) woman. Because being with beautiful black woman makes me feel that much more beautiful. But if your only 16 your bf is prolly not reached the stage where he is looking at the big picture.
You said he think white girls are easy, sounds to me like he is not up to the challenge.
2007-02-09 09:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by $0.02 3 · 13⤊ 3⤋
Girl Please. Hell to-tha-naw that has never happened to me. YOU need to broaden your horizons. Will all of the FINE guys of all races in the world, I would not even be worrying about some guys who doesn't like black girls because there are PLENTY who love our Black asses. I'm black as HELL and I have never had a problem having any man I want, White, Black, Asian, or otherwise. Get with the program sis. There are plenty of fish in the sea, you better learn to catch them.
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Baby girl you are only 16? don't worry about these loser a.ss boys. Get your education, make that money and when they see you successful they will only wish. You don't have to put out to have a guy. If that girl is willing to give it up and that is what he wants then why do you want a man with such low standards? Girl I am telling you, you have a lot of years ahead. I'm only 10 years older than you, but I can tell you there are plenty of men who CRAVE black women. Just be beautiful, strong, and get your education, you will see that the caliber of men will change.
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O-KAY Vanilla Face I must correct you sweetness. I also grew up in a community that is over 90% white. And the reason that you don't see so many pregnant white girls is not because they don't get pregnant sweetheart. It is because they "take care of" the pregnancies-if you know what I mean. Please come correct darling.
2007-02-09 08:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by Roni 5 · 12⤊ 4⤋
Well, I am not a black woman, I'm a white girl, but I can understand where you're coming from. It hurts when any guys leave a girl for somebody else, regardless of her race. But I think it probably stings just a bit more when she is of a different race because it makes you think that the guy wants someone as different from yu as possible. And if this keeps happening to you, why don't you consider dating guys who are not black, even white guys? I think I answered your question about if non-black men like you, well you will never know until you try, and I'm sure they do and would be willing to date you. A lot of white guys I know like black girls, and I also know that a lot of Asian guys and Latin guys like black girls. So it's not true that they just likew light-skinned girls and not dark-skinned girls. Maybe the ones who say that are doing it to annoy you b/c they know it gets to you, or maybe they just happen to be ones that like white girls. Also maybe it has to do with where you live---maybe where you/they live there is not a lot of white girls so it's more rare and enticing to them. It doesn't mean every guy thinks that. Lots of guys, black, white, yelllow, brown, etc,. like dark-skinned girls. I think personally you shouldn't focus on the fact that your boyfriend left you for a white girl, but that he left you for another girl, period. What he did to you was wrong, and it would have still hurt if she was a black girl, right? Either way it hurts to be cheated on, but not every guy is like that.
2007-02-09 08:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 0⤋
Not all black women choose to date Black men. Some of of could care less who they would choose to date. It's all about your freedom to date whomever it is that you're attracted to, but make sure they're attracted to you and want to date you as well. As for the stereotypes that your ex has used with White women, that is very sad that he would use those as his excuse. He wants to date a White woman because he doesn't want to date you anymore. It's as simple as that. I mean he may have those stereotypes with them, but he isn't with you is he? There are plenty of Black and Hispanic men that are attracted to Black women, and there are plenty of Black and Hispanic men that are not attracted to Black women. As far as you, you choose to date Black men and that's your own personal preference. Some other women do not choose to limit ourselves. With time and growing into womanhood, hopefully you will see that there are other things, other characteristics that will attract you to a man, not just the color of his skin. Good luck.
2007-02-09 08:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Girl, Empty 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well I have read some of your other questions. It seems to me that you are open to dating other races. You have been hurt because someone left you. Race shouldn't matter. When someone cheats it hurts regardless of the race. I am white and my boyfriend is black and we are together because we love each other. Has nothing to do with race. You should just try to find someone that you want to be with and that wants to be with you. You are young there is someone out there for you. Be paitent. Quit bashing me when you don't know me. I have nothing to do with how people in your life have treated you. Be mad at your boyfriend (ex) and your dad. But it is not the woman's fault unless she purposly seeked them out and knew they were in relationships. But chances are these men lied to them.
2007-02-09 08:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by givelife 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i have so had to deal with this. I feel as if maybe i have to go outside my own race just to get a guy. but i don't want to do that. i want a black man. i too have heard a black men say they don't want dark skin girls, but I'm like i hope no girl in your family is dark skin because i beat that will hurt them.
2007-02-09 12:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nice Aries Girl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋