Only serious answers no pervs!?

Question

Ok I am 22 years old and have never had an orgasm during sex! I don't even know where to begin! I want so bad for my boyfriend to be able to achieve this! I get off during oral and its wonderful! But i wanna be able to get off during sex! HELP any woman who had this problem that found a method that works??? Anyone? Help!

Also i dont want someone to be my teacher i just want ideas thanks!
No pervs!

This isnt about not making love! I lost my virginty when i was 15! I have never had an orgasim from sex!

Also i guess maybe i should have said this in the begining but i was molested when i was 5 years old till i was 10! Could that be a problem like a mental block? I always thought that is what my problem was! I feel horrible cause my boyfriend thinks its his fault!

Answer 1

well, u should have asked for pervs, but,

some women do not orgasm, weither for physicolocial or phychological reasons, others can only achieve orgasm in certain positions, or ways or with difficulty, orthers go off when the wind blows, or not

some of the differences between these types of women are related as follows

the physicological concerns related to your and your partners, or sex toys abilities, fit, health etc

the phycological reasons include health of the relationship, the romantic environment, performance anxiety on your or your partners part, past experience or trama

all these things and more play together,

more to the pervy stuff, don't worry if it is going to happen, tell ur partner its not important, and mean it, then relax, use foreplay, lots of 4play, and get into a position, like doggy or something, where u can reach down and use ur hands while in the act, then u might be able to achieve ur goal, but, more to the point, try to enjoy the whole experience, then it really will just be frosting on cake, better than cake alone, but not so good w/o the cake

Answer 2

Unfortunately not all women can achieve orgasm through penetration. So it may never happen for you that way.

That said, it doesn't mean you can't have an orgasm while he's inside you. Have you tried a vibrator? If you stimulate the part that is usually where you achieve orgasm during oral sex, then that will work fine.

If you don't want to try that, then some positions may be better to stimulate that area while he's inside you, bringing you to orgasm. Try sitting on him while he's laying down, but facing away from him - that puts more pressure on the front of your 'bits' which may help.

Answer 3

i kno exactly what you mean. i was the same way, and was also molested when i was a young child. however, ive found that only one person has ever given me an orgasm before, and that person is my boyfriend now. i have full trust in him, and i love him more than anything. i believe in mental blocks, however, i think its a trust issue. if you dont trust him fully, then you might not reach that point during sex.
idk, maybe i'm crazy but it worked for me. i had to find someone i trusted with my whole heart. i was embarrassed to be naked in front of him, and until i got to that poitn where i was comfortable, i couldnt have an orgasm. jus learn to trust him and love him completely, and youll get there

Answer 4

Wow, you're asking for no pervs. That's gonna be tough considering the content.
The only way I can get my girlfriend to orgasm during sex is to have her on top of me and use the hands and face and mouth as a team. My hands need to be all over her back and neck while I kiss and bury my face in her chest. This works for her but I don't know if the breasts are a soft spot for you or not. A lot of attention on the nipples and you need to move on him in a way that is pleasurable for YOU. Talk about it with him. Brainstorm and you guys might skyrocket.

Answer 5

You need to do a lot of foreplay beforehand. Women have a harder time getting sexually excited than men. So you need to become extemely aroused if you want to have an orgasm. You could use a vibrator in your vagina beforehand. That might help get your body jucies flowing. You could also try different sexual positions and should buy a book on Kama Sutra, ancient teachings on achieving incredible sex. Just reading the book will excite you.

Answer 6

It very well may be a mental bloc because of what happen
to you in the past. Maybe you need some counseling to
help you get over the past and then your natural instincts
will kick in, because if it is not a physical medical problem
it very well could be mental. Talk to a professional who
may be able to help you, as you are young and can over-
come your thoughts of your past with some help.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Something like 80% of all women do not have an organism with penetration. Normal. But there are two books that you might withs to read --- cheap, in paperback by THE sex therapist in the country today:

For Yourself
For You Both (or for each other, I forget)

both written by Lonnie Barbach. Cheap on Amazon.com, or anywhere else. worth every dime

Answer 8

hello goddess. Sometimes while my man is on top penetrating me, I'll rub my clitoris with one of my free hands. If I'm on top, what I'll do is each time on the down stroke on his penis, I'll grind my pusssy back and forth just above his cocck, where his hair grows. When I do that my clitt is getting some good action and is sure to give me orgasms.

If he's hitting me from behind, then of course his cocck is hitting my G-spot and I don't need much more than that, but if I do, then I'll tell him to put his hand under me and rub my clitt, or else I'll do it.

But of course, the best orgasms come from oral, no doubt about it ;-)

There are many ways to achieve orgasm thru penetration, just experiment with what feels good, and have fun!!

xoxo
sophia

Answer 9

Its very hard to get an orgasm from sex b cuz u need clitoral stimulation, like u get during oral. So if u want to have an orgasm the best way is with you on top and either you or you partner stimulate your clit....... I sugest a using a vibrator while you on top to stimulate you

Answer 10

I have dealt with that problem from time to time, myself. I have learned though that if I am aroused enough through whatever type of 4play, then I can orgasm during sex. Also, me being in control helps A LOT!!!! Because only we know what feels the best to us!!