When I was in school I was bullied and I vowed as an adult (I’m 19) I would never be treated that way again, so when I was sure that this young lad was making negative comments about me (which was confirmed when he finally said it to my face) with the intention of his enjoyment over my ridicule, I thought ill deal with this the adult way and tell him that I don’t think he should say what he was saying to me, he laughed in my face and I realised I would have to complain about him to the college I’m in (because they have a zero bullying policy I thought the threat of getting kicked out would deter him) of course he laughed in my face about this too and I wasn’t taking seriously, so a lot of screaming followed because I couldn’t control my emotions at this point, I knew I couldn’t let it continue because I know from experience it gets worse, so once I was sure I had to act. Any way it stopped and we haven’t spoken a word to each other since I don’t blame him because he’s strait out of
2007-02-09 08:29:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
school and that’s what they learn as normal, for a while I was angry I wasn’t taken seriously but that was at the establishment not him, I seriously forgave him and let it go and I was civil to him.
On Thursday I was waiting for class and my friend saw a boy getting beaten up and I saw this guy being kicked (just before it was broken up) this really depressed me because of my experience of bullying I really hate to see it and have promised my self to stop bullying when I see it, but this time I was to late.
Of course I cant know whether I would of, I don’t think you can until your in that situation, I then found out that it was the boy that took enjoyment out of ridiculing me, and that he had started this fight on a smaller boy (because he thought he wouldn’t fight back) he said “y r u staring at me?” a typical macho show off to his friends that back fired, he started on this boy because he thought he was an easy target.
2007-02-09 08:30:42 · update #1
And now I don’t how to feel, for a week or two I wished this on this boy I wished him pain and I thought I had raised above it to see him as a uneducated child ( he’s16), when I didn’t know it was him I thought that’s terrible and when I did I didn’t feel pleasure but I did feel he got what he deserved, you play with fire you get burnt.
Do I admit the human condition and enjoy revenge or do I feel quilt because I wished (literally) for it to happen.
Is it ok for the bully to be bullied or does that make me (wishing that) as bad as him, is it ever acceptable? I can’t believe that. I saw blood come down a boys face and every thing was wrong with the world, mans cruelty to man. But when I knew it was him, it became balanced, karma existed and what goes around….. well….. kicked him in the stomach. The saying comes to mind “is the enemy of my enemy my friend?”
2007-02-09 08:31:21 · update #2
The ambulance came and I wont know how bad he was hurt (and there for how guilty to feel) for a week (after term break) I need you to tell me how to feel.
2007-02-09 08:31:38 · update #3
Honey, you wouldn't be human if you didn't feel a small amount of satisfaction when this horrible person got his comeuppance. I think its a good sign that you feel so conflicted about this, it shows you are a good, caring person, a rare thing these days. You didn't wish harm on this boy, he attracted it through his own bullying behaviour. Let go of your bad thoughts and give yourself a break. You've been through a lot by the sound of it and at this person's hands. Don't let him have any more influence over your life. We can hope he has enough brains to learn from his experience and stop hurting others. You did the right thing reporting him and acted with complete dignity. You should be proud of yourself. Move on and let it go.
Take care : )
2007-02-09 08:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by queenbee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, don't let anyone tell you how to feel. What you are feeling is called sweet revenge, or karma. He brought this on himself.
What could you have done to stop the fight? By the time you got there it was well under way. You had nothing to do with it.
Hopefully this punk will learn his lesson. When you act like a jerk, karma can really suck!
2007-02-09 08:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That Muslim guy became doing the main suitable element as a man or woman; it is not the 1st time that Muslims have come to tips from others..and Christians have additionally stood up for Muslims. Even in Israel right this moment, in some areas, Muslims and Jews stay area via area and are very neighborly to one yet another.
2016-12-17 06:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, there is no easy answer because he actually deserved what he got and hopefully that thought him a lesson. I think it is only human to take a little pleasure out of him getting a little pay back. I say he is not dead or crippled so HA!
2007-02-09 08:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned decades ago to never wish harm or death on anyone. To this day, I get very sad when I hear that anyone was injured or killed--even if I could not stand the person.
It seems that when you do wish harm to come to someone, harm does come--but to someone else. I have seen this many times. I sometimes have wished that someone would just move away, or that I could move away--but I never wish for harm to come to anyone.
2007-02-09 08:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell u how to feel , u feel partly to blame because u wished this appon him and want someone to take that away ....
All i can say is its not your fault had u wished this upon him or not , this guy sounds like a complete ar*e .... u had no part to play in it dont worry , forget about it and move on ... sh*t happens ...
2007-02-09 08:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt be happy, you should be grateful this bully didnt get worse done to him, he sunds like a coward and hes learnt from his mistake-you couldnt do anything about this, and may be now hes learnt something, however, bullies are often sufferers themselfs, no reason 4 ur suffering thought, its a combo of ur college being negligent,other pple not being as forgiving as you and this guys ego.may b now hell act more like an adult.
2007-02-09 08:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by janeysmithster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As they say, "What goes around, comes around". I would not worry too much about it unless that person seems like he's in danger of being seriously hurt. At that point I think it surpasses the boundaries of your relationship as "enemies", and appropriate action needs to be taken.
2007-02-09 08:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by Transatlanticism 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi no holds barred i can say without a doubt that the coward got what he deserved. what goes round comes round why is it ok for one to bully and not expect repercussions? i hate bullying in any form and i would gladly stand and watch any bully get their just rewards. relax and enjoy your kind of pay back
2007-02-09 08:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ken M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
feel the way you feel Do not label it happy or guilt or something else. Usually its a mixture and changes. Just feel , thats normal and let it be what ever it is. Then it wil be fine. Whatever you feel is ok.
2007-02-09 08:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋