He's emailing another woman pics of our kid. What do I do?
The man I am living with has totally stopped having sex with me. When I ask him why, he blames it on the baby. However, recently he has been talking about this other woman at work all of the time, when he claims that he doesn't believe in having female friends when you are in a relationship. She is also overweight and I am not and he says that overweight women are not his thing. He also emailed her this super sexual joke that I forwarded to him and he now goes to work an hour early, when he is a school bus driver and his route is only for 30 minutes from point A to B. She is married, however, I don't trust it, because recently I discovered that he also emailed a photo of our infant child to this woman over the weekend, saying he would "see her monday."
I don't want him emailing pics of my son to other women.
How do I confront him and what is your take on all of it. Should I be worried here or am I over-reacting?
2007-02-09 08:22:52 · 17 answers · asked by Java Queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My take on this? Basically, I find the whole situation sad. OK. There are several issues. First, since the child is his too, he can share pics with anybody he wishes, as can you. He has stopped having sex with you, and is having quite an increase in interaction with other women. You could even say that he's behaving like a single guy. Isn't he single? You two never bother getting married right? It's very likely he's getting the urge to wander, or is socializing with others already. You probably should confront him, and force him to make up his mind. But, it doesn't sound good.
2007-02-09 09:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow Up.
Do you suppose he is having relations with a woman he is sending baby pictures to?
Who have you sent pictures to? Anyone at work? Oh that's right you probably aren't working right now.
The reality is you just do not want him emailing HER.
This is a big overreaction.
You should be more worried that the baby is getting in the way of your sex life afterward ( has it been 8 weeks).
2007-02-09 08:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey you dont have a control of what he sends know if you are so confused about he is doing with this other female why dont sit and talk about it, no yell, no get upset just think what u really want ..... is not the fact that he is sending pictures of ur baby what is getiing you upset is what you dont know is happening?!!!!! so ask him straigh foward if not well do u really want to be worrying what he is doing ???? what does he wants ? No sex for a guy come on? Open your eyes and do what is best for you and your baby? another choice would be start seducing him , wear things that would drive him crazy do stupid funny and nice things for him and win him back !!! thats all i can say!
2007-02-09 08:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not over-reacting, and you are with a baby -uuuhh, no two. The guy who fathered your child is unready to be a parent, a husband (or partner) and a father.... You and he need to sit down and have a little chat, and if negotiating differences without rage and resentment are something you two have never tried or don't know how to do,,,,,, then you should be in the presence of a counselor, and find out what is going on --- on both sides, his and yours. If you are not skilled in this, you will simply create resentment, as you accuse, and he accuses.... and it is a skill, hon, taught, but rarely innate in any of us. So if you haven't had classes in counseling, just make an appointment, before your relationship goes up in a puff of smoke.
2007-02-09 08:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol i have to say your all over the place. Her weight doesnt matter shes a friend he can talk to, he emailed her a joke maybe nasty but still a joke, fact is he isnt having sex with you and it may or may not be "the baby" thats for you to figure out. Let me ask you this.... would you like it better if he was sending nasty pictures of his self instead of telling women he has a child that hes proud of and shows them pictures of the baby? come on now you cant control him youve got issues to work on and things to talk over with him.
2007-02-09 08:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Java Queen,
You are in a pickle. You had a baby by a guy who sounds like a first class jerk. Oh well, hindsight is 20/20. Do what is best for you and the baby. If that means leaving the guy then do itand fast. Take care of that baby.
2007-02-09 08:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is not just YOURS. You act as if both your "man" and your son are possessions.
You should take a long look in the mirror. When you point fingers at someone there are three more pointing right back at yourself. You may be driving the wedge between the two of you and not even realize you are doing it.
2007-02-09 08:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would confront him.....sounds weird if he's now leaving an hour early for work when he didn't have to before....something is going on...you need to find out...how about confronting the other woman? Women instincts are hardly ever wrong....trust your gut.
2007-02-09 08:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by a1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man I am living with? Are you in a relationship? I am going on the idea that you are. I would be more worried that he's totally stopped having sex with you. Something is going on with this woman. I don't think you are over-reacting.
2007-02-09 08:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm... sounds weird.
Why does he say he doesn't believe in having female friends? What's wrong with that?
If she is a friend, as it appears, then maybe you should invite her over for dinner one night so she can meet you and your child in person? Maybe you can all be friends!
If there's more to this friendship than that, then you'll know by his and her reaction to your invitation.
I wouldn't say you're overreacting, but do remember that your hormones are going to be out of whack from having a child, and that can skew your perception of a situation. (But I'd still check out this 'friendship'!)
2007-02-09 08:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋