My neighbor is a lady who have two kids, one is 1 years old and the other is 2 years old. She's a sweet lady who is my family friend. But the problem is that she's a lazy woman because she don't cook that much, and her house is a dirty house too.
Me and my mom at first we thought it was funny how she is so lazy but now, it's serious because she's like a family and I want to tell her that she needs to take care of her kids, give them food and clean the kids and the house. But do you think I should say that to her? How should I say than? Or am I wrong for entering her business?
2007-02-09 08:18:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How about minding your own business unless she expressly asks you for your opinion? You seem too young to be a nosy busybody.....
2007-02-09 08:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by SavageLettuce 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You and your Mom should try to pick a time to talk with her when the kids are asleep or not in the house. Tell her quietly that you are her friends and are very concerned about her and the childrens' well-being. Ask if you can help clean the house. That
is the first step. If she refuses or gets angry, smile and say you
were only trying to help, then leave.
Some other person may call the child welfare services if the conditions are that bad.
2007-02-09 08:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman may be depressed. Personally I think if you say something, she may take offense. On the other hand if the kids are being neglected something needs to be done, and child services should be called. If it were a good friend of mine I would help to clean and take care of the kids while dropping hints about how its nice to see the kids looking so healthy and how good everything smell when it is clean. I would also offer to help out on a weekly basis if she were willing to help. You can't just do things for her cause she will get even lazier.
2007-02-09 09:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you could start asking her questions like " So what are you guys eating for dinner" and see how she responds. Eventually questions like that will give you the opportunity to say something like "well what are you gonna feed the kids" and then go into it. I would say something to her. Even if she doesn't receive it at the time, she will think about it on her own time and maybe realize it. Plus, she just may not know how to do those things and needs someone to help her with some tips. Be easy but at the same time creative with the way you entertain this so she will not push you away.
2007-02-09 08:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, the area you're thinking of treading on is not one which invites unsolicited advice. How a parent raises their children is not something which can easily - or appropriately - be discussed as an outsider. If your neighbor is neglecting her children, notify Child Protective Services (or whatever the agency is that's responsible for childrens' welfare in your region).
...because talking with this person just isn't going to change anything - it's an issue of her attitude toward her responsibilities (she seems to think she has no responsibility towards these kids), not simply something that you can throw out there like a handy cooking tip.
2007-02-09 08:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by pblcbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about " hey, (your neighbor's name), why don't I watch your kids for a few hours so you can get your housework done without any distractions"......maybe she'll get the hint
If the kids are being mistreated report her to child welfare anonymously, they'll step in and make sure she's keeping a clean house and feeding them nutrious food.
2007-02-09 08:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Cyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
defernt nations used to deal with this kind of problems , but in our tradaional method for that if we realy careing about this person we will speak to him dirctly , and if from the first time she didnt respond we will try agian and agian because we feel that those kids are ours
2007-02-09 08:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by mussamam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can polietly say ma'm if i could help you cook and clean sometimes if you want but if you think thats corny then you can always just say i am sorry for gettin into your bussiness but you should start cleaning and cooking a little more but i am not trying to get in your bussiness or anthing i am just trying to help.
~Smiley~
2007-02-09 08:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she would be happy to know that someone cares about her. If you don't want to hurt her feelings then you won't tell her then her family with soon fade away!
2007-02-09 08:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by person who cares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's child abuse you need to report her. But if it's not I would say let it go, nothing good will come of it believe me.
2007-02-09 08:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by BeBu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋