we have been married for 20yrs every year there is some argument or the other because my husband doesnot get along with my side of the family. I have been getting a cold shoulder for the past 20 yrs.. i know i feel very stupid, but when we r together, we really get along. He does not comuinicate very well with me its either his way or the highway.Now since i went against his wishes and i want to talk to my family when i want he has decided that we can not be husband wife anymore. we will stay in the same house in different rooms, he wants to seperate for a while. we have 2 kids and a business together. we always did business things together and we make a very good business team, but personally he won't budge and he sulks for days while i have no one to talk to or socialize .am i stupid to still care for this guy?
2007-02-09 08:17:24 · 17 answers · asked by billi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand caring for him but he is way in the wrong for telling you not to see your family. Stand your ground and if the love was meant to be he'll come around and if he doesn't in a year than it's time to find someone new. Don't give in to him on this, that's your family NOBODY should ever tell you you can't see your family!
2007-02-09 08:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an a*ss. He's trying to control you, which is a form of abuse. I'd tell him that you're tired of this, and that you want to move on with your life. Mean it. Get your own place for you and the kids (or if the house is 1/2 and 1/2, maybe you can buy him out.) You can do much better than this egotistical, selfish brute. And your kids don't need to see you being treated like this either. That is also abuse on your kids.
2007-02-09 08:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. You can do this. Don't let him push you around. Just be civil you have 2 kids to worry about. I think he should leave because being in the same home during a separation is not good. It does not teach him anything. You want him to miss you your children and what you had. He is being ridiculous by asking you to give up your family. What about his? I think you should call his bluff and tell him to go. As far as the business goes treat him like a business partner. Go in be neutral and act the same. Don't bring your dirty laundry to work. Be strong and act independent and I think he'll come around. Good Luck.
2007-02-09 09:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had been married for just 10 years, but my husband was the same way. He hated my family and wouldn't do anything with them hardly. It was hard on me and my kids. He finally just went and got another girl to be with. We are just getting a divorce and I think he thinks that I will just take it like his mom did for years. But I can't take a cheater, you should stand up for what you know to be true and right. If you love your family then he'll just have to get over it. He married your family too. 20 years is long time to put up with something like like. I only lasted 10. Hope that helps.
2007-02-09 08:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by bo4hoss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a spoiled baby. You should be able to talk to your family any damn time you wish, the fact that he doesn't get along with them does not mean he has any right to deny you access to your family. No you are not stupid to care for this guy, he's the father of you children and your business partner.
2007-02-09 08:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand part of what you are going through my hubby can not stand my side of the family either. And it is really hard to deal with. We also have three kids together. And I guess some things are best the way that they are.. But with my hubby and I he hates my family and yet I hate his so when it comes to things we do it with "our" family the one that we have created together. I really hope that you guys can work through this and I wish you the best of luck in your future. email me if you would like to talk...and let me know what happens...
2007-02-09 08:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its his way or the highway, then he has chosen that you should take the highway.
A marriage is half and half. Both parties make sacrifices for the other for the common good. If he thinks that he can throw you out if you don't do as he says, then he is seriously deluded in what a relationship is.
If he does not make compromises for your good, then seperate. And divorce unless he changes this idea
2007-02-09 08:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by The Overfiend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is wrong for not wanting you to be able to talk to your family, after all it is your family and if he doesn't want to talk to them then so be it but he has no right to keep you from them.
If he wants to seperate the he or you one needs to leave the house and not just move into another room and see how he likes being alone then.
2007-02-09 13:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as he wants to be in total control of your life also. You should be able to talk to anyone you wish. I think a marriage should be a 50/50 deal. He sounds selfish and controlling. Let him be alone for a while and see. If he really loves you and honors you he will try. You might suggest counseling. Good luck and God bless you both.
2007-02-09 08:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldnot she say hi to my gf? the day previous to this me n my pal became talkin then my lady pal phoned n needed to declare hi to my pal yet my pal reported no,i dont get it,why wouldnot she say hi to my lady?
2016-09-28 21:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋