Concerning marriage what do you think see ? below?

Question

I just get very sad when I hear of yet another couple getting a divorce, nobody seems to have a happy and healthy marraige anymore. My question is this why do couples give up so easy is marriage worth fighting for? In my parents generation love was more comittital not as sex orented and people endured the trials and kept going on for the Lord and eachother? Do you think people know what getting married is really about? Why do people spend thousands of dollars on a wedding yet wont pay hundreds of dollars to get counselling to preserve thier marraige?

Answer 1

I just got back from a great Bible based marriage retreat. We had 16 couples there who believe enough in the God ordained sanctity of marriage to do something like this.
We are in a fallen world and we shouldn't be surprised at the rampant divorce rate as fewer and fewer people believe the inspired Word of God.
Rome was not much different and we can expect things to get much worse. Couples give up because they didn't really take it seriously in the first place.
In this day and age as we progress ever closer to the end of God's time of grace fewer and fewer people are raised with any concern for other people, there is so little taught about love (the real thing), truth, sacrifice, grace, forgiveness and so on.
I am pleased to say that after a mere 5 years of marriage, my husband and I know we will weather the storms, live sacrificially for one another, love one another second to God only, and be blessings to one another for the rest our natural lives.
It has been said that marriage is a 50-50 deal. That is not correct, it is 100-100. A marriage cannot survive if you are not willing to give 100% to the effort.

Answer 2

Honey,

Back then there were no myspace and Xbox.

Back then children were not raised by the T.V.

Back then there were no cellphones and text mesaging.

Back then bringing home the bacon was enough

Back then women could afford to stay home with the kids

Back then there was no such easy access to drugs.

Back then they weren't strips joints in every corner and porn in every channel.

Back then women put an effort to look pretty and atractive for their husbands at all times

Back then chuches were about worshiping the Lord and not all of these tele-evangelist crap

Back then if your spouse beat you, you took it for 40 more years and say nothing. Now there is a choice.

Nowadays women do not need to depend on a man. A woman can vote, a woman can go to school and their sole purpose in life is not just breeding and cooking.

People that have a $200 dollar weddings get divorced too.

Some people cannot afford marriage counselling. I don't know what "hood'" you come from, but most therapist charge $ 300 an hour and insurance doesn't cover it.

If you think that divorce is "easy" you don't know what are you talking about,

If the marriage is worth fighting for, then people wouldn't get a divorce.


So there, I said it. Did I answer your question?

Answer 3

only the grim reaper knows why the easy way is not chosen. Back in the day of parents and grand parents and I am one infact both. The commitment to a life long relationship was an everyday occurance think back though too that women were a second class citizens who weren't heard by a man run country. Education gave humanity an even playing field and in order for a man and a woman to be both in love and stay in love the thickness of the blinders have got to be thicker than an armored cars windows. I mean true love still happens. two people can still make that total commitment to each other pledging their dedication to each other and with an even higher education see the benifits to making it work out, at any expense. but I don't see it at all as a thing young people can rush into as they lack the experience of having been there and done that to the extent that usually that is where a relationship breaks down in the "I wonder if" is too easy to follow and sadly enough becomes the downfall to the relationship. I think it takes some people many failures to find the right one and when the two together are on the same page with having been there and done that enough times to realize that when the right one for them comes along they can open that door and step into the room where life together will go on and have a better than average chance of lasting forever. Faith, Hope and love (just like the bible says) and the greatest of these is love.

Answer 4

Well here is my take. Since divorce has become such a common thing people get married without caring or thinking rather than making sure they are with the right person. You ahve to fight for love, you have to be sure. Love each other and dont sweat the small stuff. The small stuff built up can lead to a large problem if you sweat it all the time. I love my girl, she loves me, but we're waiting another 5 years before marriage. I dont know what to say to this question. But i wish the world the best.

Answer 5

Good question. I think you nailed it when you said that our parents generation was more into commitment. That to me is the key. Commitment to having a life together and working through the good and the bad. So many people as you said spend all their time and money planning a huge wedding, but I don't think they really listen to their vows. After all the excitement of the wedding day wears off and reality sets in, they're disappointed. People just give up too easily when times get tough. My in laws were married for 55 years and I think that's awesome. They had a lot of rough times in their marriage but they were commited to working it out and they did. I also think the it's important to turn towards each other during tough times to work things out together but many people turn away from each other and look elsewhere. It's sad and I think too many people get married too quickly before really getting to know each other well enough.

Answer 6

I believe divorce is so common now becaue it has become so easy to get one but mainly due to the fact that the values of today are much different than that of our parents generation.
Marriage today seems to revolve mostly around the sex aspect of it and nothing else. If the sex is or goes bad then the marriage is over.
If we could change todays views about marriage and go back to the morals and values of yesteryear then there would be alot of divorce attorneys out of a job.

Answer 7

Im separated and about to get divorced. I tried fixing it with my husband but he was unwilling. My issues were not because he was mean or abusive. I just wanted him to do was take care of his health, for him to be more involved with our kids and to have a steady job. I gave him a year to fix this and yet nothing happened. We were together since 1996 and married in 1999. In 4 days is our 8th Anniversary(legally) He did not want couseling and finally said he was sorry for not being the man I wanted but maybe in the future he would change. So you see, is not about giving up so easy, its about two ppl wanting to stay in the marriage. Finally I gave up and found comfort in some one else. Its not right and its over now. Still my husband seems happier now that he is by himself. He loves our kids, no doubt of that. He just can't handle the entire "Father role" and the responsabilities that come with it.

Answer 8

Well speaking from my own experience, it seems much easier for some to just walk away from the marriage. Some will go above & beyond to hide the fact that they're cheating on there spouse, but will walk away from the spouse like it's nothing. I offen wonder why wasn't it that easy to not cheat. But @ the end of the day you just have to do what you have to do to up hold your commitment to the marriage, and hope that your spouse will do the same.

Answer 9

Alot of people don't care anymore.That is why there are so many divorces in the world.If one marriage doesn't work out then get a divorce and find someone else.Alot of people are looking for that perfect person and there is no such thing as the perfect person.

Answer 10

I believe that same thing. Right now, I'm not looking forward to marriage due to divorce and such. People just throw love away for some stupid reason and the normal rules no longer apply. How sad.