This is not for someone you want to "hook up" with, but someone you're considering dating, perhaps. Yes I realize a relationship is not just about sex, but it does become important eventually. Personally, I am willing to compromise for someone I care about, but I need to know (before I get too attached) that the person I'm "dating" will do the same. How do I ask that question?
2007-02-09 08:07:11 · 13 answers · asked by Ronald 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
"I've been thinking a lot about you, and my feelings for you, and where this might be going. I realize that a relationship is not just about sex, but sex does become important eventually. And before I risk getting too attached, I want to make sure that we'll be sexually compatible when or if we reach that point. But I'm feeling kind of awkward right now because I'm not quite sure how to ask about what you like in a tactful way."
2007-02-09 08:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try this....steer the conversation to sex and simply state your "position" (no pun intended) on the matter. Don't ask; volunteer the information (that you're willing to compromise for someone you care about) and that should open up the dialogue.
2007-02-09 08:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by behrmark 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can not speak for all gay men or even the majority since I am not a gay man. But the ones that I know and are friends with has no problem striking up a convo about anothers preference, aslong as it is not done in a rude way.. the men i know are pretty open with talking about it to other gay men..
2007-02-09 08:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, well, that's the kind of question one usually reserves for the time when you and your future partner are seriously getting hot and heavy, but I digress! When the time(and you WILL know when that time is, trust me!) arrives, just ask! Besides, how many "straight" couples do you know well who only go guy-top, gal-bottom every single time?
2007-02-09 08:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn;t bring it up until the second date or so. Just as a casual question about preferences
2007-02-09 08:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just wrote about the situation is sweet (considering dating.......), why not use it as the opening of you conversation and mention the position?
2007-02-09 08:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by @!# 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"So, um, I have a kind of personal question for you. I was just wondering what your sexual preference is and how versitle you consider yourself?"
No need to act all coy and ask things in code...just be a man and straight forward.
2007-02-09 08:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is it always top and bottom with some people? What ever happened to good old fashioned sideways?
2007-02-09 08:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a tactful explanation for him as to why you need to know this information?
2007-02-09 11:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to give him diferent situations on which he could either behave like a "top" or a "bottom". Then you can make up your own conclusions.
2007-02-09 08:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by whothatBE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋