Everytime i like a guy, i start liking him like very, very, very much. I am exremelly emotional and sensitive and it hurts me a lot when i either am unable to get the guy i want, or the waiting itself. It hurts so much I can literally feel it, almost, as if my heart is being teared away from me. I can't eat, sleep, or work. I feel hollow inside. I write poetry, and it helps i think, but that doesn't get me too much down, or worse, does it? I don't suppose so. It's just that i have this extremelly vivid imagination, and it starts flowing away from me. It's horrible, horrible. I need serious help on that issue, i know.
2007-02-09 08:04:57 · 7 answers · asked by Diaci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'd be fine if you forced yourself to keep perspective. Instead of writing poetry, write a list of what you dislike and like about the guy. Use your rational mind, not your heart. Also, enlist a friend, someone who is sensible, to help you. Have conversations with your friend about the guy and ask her to remind you why the guy, while good, is not the god-like being you're making him out to be in your over-imaginative mind. Finally, distract yourself with activities that occupy both your mind and your hands; sports and musical instruments are good for this. Read books too -- but NOT romance novels!
2007-02-09 08:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the capacity to be ok. Some people invest a lot emotionally because that's just the way they are. The key is to approach the opposite sex and relationships just as you would a job or anything else. You need to be open to the fact that things will not always turn out the way you plan or would like them to. It seems like confidence and self esteem may be a factor in this also. If you need someone to talk about it further, feel free.
2007-02-09 08:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by kane_derick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath, have a glass of wine and chill out a little bit. Patience is a virtue. Sound like you've just gotta learn to wait a little bit. Relax....
2007-02-09 08:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with you perceived dependance on another to make your life fullfilled. You don't need anyone to make you happy, you have to do this for yourself, others are there to enhance your happiness only, if you start thinking this way you will not be depressed...
2007-02-09 08:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should not worry about guys right now and do work for a while and than when you think your time is right you look for a guy
2007-02-09 08:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by AnAlUp3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself a better person & know who you are before you try & know someone else & expect them to know you.
2007-02-09 08:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him to feel like you do, thats not wrong but it rarely happens.
2007-02-09 08:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋