im 31, my boyfrind is 33...we have been living together for a few months, right at the beginning we had sex 2 times a week....then 1 a week, and right now its been a month so far...he says he is stress at work and that his therapy makes him feel exhausted and with zero libido. do some guys just dont enjoy sex? what should i do?
2007-02-09 07:49:30 · 24 answers · asked by dear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ROTFLMAO! My first thought when I read your question "are there men wh don't enjoy having sex?" was "yeah, guys in prison who have to take the female role!"
C'mon, if he's that stressed and in therapy, there's something WRONG with him. Maybe just mental, maybe physical.
Maybe he's getting it elsewhere. If you're not happy with the situation and it doesn't look like he's going to change, dump him!
2007-02-09 07:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Marisela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people do, indeed, have a low sex drive. This can be confusing for the partner, because the low sex drive person typically behaves as though he enjoys it very much on the rare instances when he does have sex. Try to bear in mind that it's not about enjoying or not enjoying; it's about the level of the sex drive. By remembering this, you'll avoid resentment and blame, which are important things to avoid in a long-term relationship.
On the other hand, if the quantity is becoming unacceptably low to you, you might want to get back into the market for another man. There are naturally peaks and valleys in people's sex drives, and this might just be a valley. However, in general (but certainly not always), the sex drive tends to decline somewhat with age for males over 19.
2007-02-09 07:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure... the stereotype is that men are horny maniacs who're always up for sex, but I am constantly meeting women with husbands or boyfriends who have lower libidos than they'd like.
It's not your fault. Every relationship goes through this... at the beginning, you're lust-crazed beasts, and then in time you have to work harder at it. Be honest... have a discussion, and say things like, "I miss when we used to make love more." "When you don't want to have sex, it makes me feel less loved and desirable." etc Ask him if this is something that you two can work on, and maybe something he can work on in therapy.
Also, the therapy thing makes me wonder... is he on any kind of psychoactive drugs? Some antidepressants and other meds are notorious libido-killers, and this is something he should talk about with his doc.
2007-02-09 07:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by MissA 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know of any man who doesn't enjoy sex. Maybe he's telling the truth. Try do something other than the normal routinge of just sex. Spice it up. Also, just ask what can you do help ease any stress he's supposedly having. It that doesn't work then there is a relationship problem that he's not telling you about.
2007-02-09 07:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by AG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A healthy man enjoys sex. There could be physical and/or emotional reasons why his libido is lagging. I suggest you google the subject and read up on it. Too many possibilities to put in this answer.
2007-02-09 07:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he says it's stress, that's very likely what it is. work stress can kill libido. but the good news is that it's Not You. when the stress passes, he will be back up in you like a freight train, no worries.
2007-02-09 07:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by eselgeist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loose weight. dress in very intimate apparel and love to give him pleasure while he relaxes and can enjoy your effort to please him when he is so tired he can die. Or trade him in on a newer model. he might be getting some on the sly and by treating him especially well you'll soon know that truth if he turns down your oral advancements? He's either a fool, is lying or is dying.....
2007-02-09 08:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure there are some men and some women for whom sex just isn't something they are all that interested in...
If this situation is important to you, and you don't see it changing, then perhaps he's not a good match for you...talk to him about it and find out how he really feels about sex in general...
2007-02-09 07:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your answer is in your question. He's stressed at work and sees a therapist. He's got issues. Cut him some slack until he starts to feel better and less stressed out.
2007-02-09 07:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's on meds, then he may be telling you the truth. And yes, there are men who just don't care for sex. Weird, huh? My ex went a month w/out sex with me. That's one reason why he's my ex.
2007-02-09 07:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋