Do all women do this when they out number the men in a room? When ever I'm in the same room with my wife and my girlfriend they both sort of gang up on me. (open marriage, please don't judge me) I'm talking about picking on me not anything sexual just mind games. It's impossible to reason with two women at the same time, almost as if they plan some of this stuff. How do I handle this and keep my sanity?
2007-02-09 07:41:06 · 18 answers · asked by open_phunguy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't recall asking for critical, judgemental remarks!
2007-02-09 07:42:28 · update #1
I know what you mean when my sister n law is over we gang up on our husbands all the time...I am not really sure why we do it... Its kind of fun though....I also think that it is great that you have an open relationship...You are worried that you gang up on you. Have you thought that there is an atimination factor between the two woman knowing that one is your wife and the other a girlfriend...Maybe you should try getting even with them throw comments back at them...Play there game the way that they are trying to play you... And I am just wondering does your wife have a boy friend??
2007-02-09 08:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those Women Are Responding To A War That Is Going On Against Women Worldwide. And It Is Not Pleasant To Them. So, You Need To Show Support By Being Different From All Those Men Out There!
2007-02-09 07:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Trishcia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get any two women together in a room full of men and this will happen. Women have a pretty good way of reading eachother if one starts in on you in a friendly bantering way the other one can jump in and just work with it. Me and my girlfriends do this when we are out numbered by our men and it's funny to see. You just have to go with the flow and pick on them back it will make for a good fun night.
2007-02-09 07:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure is all in good fun. Women once in a while like to be playful and joke around.
If it bothers you, tell you spouse that you don't feel confortable with that type of intimate jokes in front of her friends, and that if she doesn't keep it reasonable, you won't have no choice but to either leave or let her go on her own to hang out with her friends alone.
She should understand. Tell her that you would never do something to embarrass her in front of your male friends. Simply tell her that the joke went too far and that you didn't appretiate that.
Good luck
2007-02-09 07:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women do that.
The real question is, do they nit pick you when they are alone with you? If so, it is just a continuation of that and it just feels more extreme because it's 2-1. If not, they may be trying to form a comraderie/friendship.
It might also just be a control issue, they don't want to feel like your "harem", they want you to see that they are just as much in control as you are.
As for how to deal with it, let them know how they are making you feel, they might not even realize it.
If your feelings are not respected, you may want to consider a change in you relationship(s).
Good luck! (And don't worry, I'm not judgin', 'cause when you're judgin' you're not lovin', and I'm all about the love. )
:-)
2007-02-09 07:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you ask for an answer - you will get what you get. Women stick together. And - I find it hard to believe that you can reason with one woman, let alone two. (and this, coming from a woman!) Advice on staying sane? Get some guy friends to hang out with.
2007-02-09 07:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them exactly what you just explained to us. Yes, I think it's common for them to gang up a bit, it's the mob mentality. Especially if, individually, they feel you have more power in the relationship. This is their way of gaining power. Let them know you feel uncomfortable when it happens, maybe they'll lay off. They may not even realize they're doing it.
2007-02-09 07:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to judge you or anything, but maybe they're both secretly jealous and taking it out on you. Or maybe they're trying to put you down in front of the other so the other won't be as attracted to you or something.
2007-02-09 07:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake is to try and reason with one/two women who are playing mind games with you. Just ignore them.
2007-02-09 07:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Wake Cobra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably aren't happy with the arrangement, which makes sense - it's not natural for women to accept this.
2007-02-09 07:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by scruffy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋