The man I am living with has totally stopped having sex with me. When I ask him why, he blames it on the baby. However, recently he has been talking about this other woman at work all of the time, he even emailed her this super sexual joke that I forwarded to him and he now goes to work an hour early. She is married and fat, however, I don't trust it, because recently I discovered that he also emailed a photo of my infant child to this woman over the weekend, saying he would "see her monday."
I don't want him emailing pics of my son to other women.
What can I do to confront him? (without letting out the fact that I know who she is and that he is emailing her because I know the password on his laptop.)
2007-02-09 07:33:14 · 8 answers · asked by Java Queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I added in fat because he tells me all of the time that he doesn't like larger women. I have in fact lost all of my baby weight and I am not fat. Sorry if I implied being fat was wrong.
2007-02-09 08:07:48 · update #1
And he also tells me he doesn't believe in having female friends when you are in a relationship, so again this goes against what he tells me.
2007-02-09 08:09:26 · update #2
Since I know more of the situation, my answer may be biased. You have had danger signs in front of your face for several months now and here is a new one. FIrst, your friend gets diagnosed as being bipolar and refuses his meds. He throws tantrums and in doing so break items around your house. He refuses sexual relations with you. Your daughter and he do not get along all that well. You trust him about as much as you trust a politician. Although it is blune, it is not meant in a hurtful way - wake up and kick him out before you and the kids get really hurt (and I mean in the physical sense).
2007-02-09 08:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by David K (The Real One!) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee lets see here, married people never cheat and fat people don't have sex, so the fact that this other woman is married and fat makes it impossible he is cheating with her? Yeah right. First off, the joke thing and the picture sound perfectly harmless to me. If they are just friends, then I don't see that as unusual. Going to work an hour early and not having sex with you, could mean he is either really into her, or he no longer finds you attractive and needs to get out of the house.
How old is the baby and how much weight did you put on and how many times have you gotten a sitter to watch the baby so you could go on a date with your husband? The answers to those questions will solve this mystery.
2007-02-09 15:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, when someone uses the word, "However," it contrasts the following sentence with the previous one. So, what does talking about a woman at work have to do with stopping having sex? Maybe he goes to work an hour earlier now because his boss told him to do so, or because he needs to catch up on some work. As for him talking about her, you never talk about co-workers? Maybe he emailed her the joke because it was funny. You seem to be implying that your husband is not allowed to have female friends -- maybe she's the only person he clicks with personality-wise at work. I don't find it odd or suspicious in the least that someone would send a co-worker a picture of a baby -- babies are cute. And is it YOUR son only, or your husband's son too? You're sounding awfully proprietary there. Finally, if the worst thing you could find in his email was, "See you Monday," you're sure stretching to find a problem! I mean, maybe, just maybe, he's going to . . . wait for it . . . see her on Monday.
2007-02-09 15:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be totally upfront. Married and fat is a double whammy and can't be good on your self-esteem. Tell him what you saw, he can ***** all he wants about you getting into his account, but the fact is, HE'S in the wrong. You might not want to tell him, but it sounds like the relationship is pretty much over with anyway so you might as well come clean with what you know.
Another thing you could do is email her. Tell her to back the hell up or there will be trouble, and tell her she better delete the picture of YOUR son. I'd be pissed if I were you!!!
2007-02-09 16:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what does being overweight have to do with anything? Second, so what if he knows you know who she is, at least then he cant lie. Sounds like major trust and cmmittment issues are there. Maybe the relationship needs some working on. Hiding things and lieing..... not a good thing, on neither's part.
EDIT: In that case I would be Very uneasy, to the point I would consider leaving him. Good luck
2007-02-09 15:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by chaa107 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it your son soley or both of your child? If it is your child soley then yes he shouldn't be sending out pics of your child unless he has your permission. If it is both of your child then really nothing you can do except tell him you don't like it. If they work together she probably would see a pic anyway if he has one on his desk anyway. COMMUNICATION. Talk to him tell him how you feel otherwise your wasting time and energy.
2007-02-09 16:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by T C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you saw someone on America's Most Wanted that was wanted for kidnapping a baby. Describe this woman to a tee to him. Tell him the show said she starts out by having men befriending her then sending her pictures of their babies.
2007-02-09 15:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sending pics of your child sounds kinda strange.Maybe you need to kick him out and in time find yourself a good guy. Take care
2007-02-09 15:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by sea 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋