2007-02-09 07:24:46 · 19 answers · asked by rg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Career should come first...that's one reason there are so many failed marriages these days. People marry and have kids too early, thinking that's what they want. Then they realize they've missed out on life and try to go back to school, get a better job, etc., while having to raise screaming brats.
2007-02-09 07:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Early in life, career should come first. If you working on your career at this time interferes significantly with your marriage (and vice versa) - it really is the wrong time to be married. Later in life, we sometimes have to choose whether to concentrate on the career or the family, and it's a personal choice. For some people, career will always be important; others will gladly give up the career to start a family. Most probably find a happy medium.
2007-02-09 15:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
career is more important but only before you have a family. You need to be financially stable before you start a family and the best way to do that is to have a good career going before start a family. Then, once you become stable you can slow down some and take care of a family without worrying about all the financial aspects of it.
2007-02-09 15:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible tells you it should be like this:
1. God
2. Family
3. career
4. you prioritize from here
I strongly believe in God and I follow this. If you don't have a family yet then go ahead and set up your career and then have a family if you want, this is actually the best rout to take. Speaking from experience, it is VERY difficult to have a family first and then set up a career. Once you have a family though, family is above career. Hope this helps.
2007-02-09 15:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family .... always. You family will be there when you get fired, when you don't get that raise you were expecting, and all the other crap that employers do to employees.
The thing that really matters in life is the legacy that you leave behind with your friends and your family. I lost my father last year and I came from a big family. I know my father was very proud of all his children and that's what he will be remembered for.... not for his job.
Don't get me wrong - having a career that will support your lifestyle matters, but I would NEVER chose my career over my family.
2007-02-09 15:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by tmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you want. But, usually, if you take care of your career, and get yourself set before starting a family, things will likely go a lot smoother.
Now, if you already have a family, you just have to figure out a way to balance it all out. Your family should come first. But, realisticially, your career is very important in making sure your family is taken care of. There is a delicate balance to doing it right, and you just have to figure out what that balance is for you and your family.
Take my life. I have to work to pay child support as well as caring for the children when they are with me. I can't make it to every field trip, tball game, and recital there is. I make it to as many as I can, but sometimes you have to work. Advancing myself is important, as it will allow me to provide more for the children. But, they live in fairly good conditions, therefore I don't have to always work over time to get ahead.
2007-02-09 15:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both come first. But if you do have a family then take care of your family while you're setting your self for a career. If you do not have a family then set yourself up for that career.
MJ
2007-02-09 15:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Career, You will need the money to make a better life for the family that wil come after
2007-02-09 15:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a good question and there is no one answer to it. sometimes things happen and they don't according to your plan. i had a good career then i got married, but something happened to my career but luckily i have my family to fall back on. however, just having family doesn't make me happy and i realized career is very important for me...so i am torn between these two...i guess you just have to figure out through your own individual situation and make the most people happy...including you!
2007-02-09 15:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question and it really depends on the priorities of the person asking. For instance, I started with my carreer but it was interupted by an unplanned pregnancy, for ten years I worked on raising my kids, and now I am ready to go back to my career. Although I wanted my career to come first...best laid plans... My sister on the other hand got her masters degree, moved to California and began her career in law. then she had a baby. Although he was unplanned her carreer became second to her bundle of joy and now she does everything for him. For most having baby or starting a family changes your entire outlook on carreer vs family.
2007-02-09 15:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋