Sha has gained forty or fifty pounds in the last four years and is inactive. I have a child from a previous marriage. His mother became obese and eventually left me and him. My current wife has been an outstanding wife and step-mother, but her weight gain is freaking me out and reminding me of my past experience
2007-02-09 07:13:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bob, this is a touchy subject. You have to remember that what happened to you in your first relationship does not in any way have to happen in this one. My suggestion to you is not to come right out and tell her, but to initiate exercise, i.e. have her walk with you every night, by doing this you will be helping her to become active. Another suggestion go to the mall and walk there, it is climate controlled and also will help to get her active. If she has gained a lot of weight over that 4 year period she needs to work up to being able to really do hard exercise. Take it slow and be supportive!!
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2016-05-19 21:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just tell her what you just said...also encourage her, both of you get some excerise, eat better/healthier, etc. Better for her health as well.
I gained a lot of weight after my 2 daughters were born. They are 15 months apart. I was still am just so tired all the time. I was depressed but didn't realize it for a long time. I have since gone to the doctor, got on some medicine. I still hate to work-out, but will take walks in the evenings with my husband, and started yoga. Cook healther meals, and my husband and I "talk", even it is painful sometimes, we still talk. Be open and honest. You said yourself she has been an outstanding wife. good luck
2007-02-09 07:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lila 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's "lose" weight, not "loose" weight.
What a weird thing to tie weight loss to - adoption?
Try telling her you want both of you to go to the gym - together - to improve your health and live longer and stay together and have fun longer. Then go join a gym together and go together. Forget going directly for the weight loss - what? You think she isn't aware that she's gained 50 pounds? She probably hates herself. You ragging on her won't do any good.
Make it a team effort or shut the h*e*l*l up about it. As if you are so goddamned perfect.
2007-02-09 07:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, express your concern for HER health, your relationship, and your parenting relationship. I would find a different route than that, just asking her to loose weight before you adopt. She is no doubt probably in a depression for not being able to have her own children and YOU need to help HER get better, BEFORE you adopt. Good Luck.
2007-02-09 07:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by not2bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. If it is bothering you, the best thing to do is be honest and talk about it with her. Let her know you are concerned and fear that history is repeating again. And that her weight is freaking you out. Its best to be honest about an issue and address it before it becomes a problem that later on may not be fixable. Talk, don't be afraid..She is your wife and if u can't communicate with her, then there is a problem. If she gets upset let her know ur not being mean or insulting, just concerned.
2007-02-09 07:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by RR77 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some persons are merely slobs and their area or aesthetics are the final situation on their checklist of significant issues in life. I could ask your self what she does all day long? i do no longer see a reason or excuse for a grimy kitchen or piles of clothing in all places. A mattress is for drowsing no longer for piling junk throughout and leaving it there. and that i do no longer understand why you may wash your individual clothing whilst she does not artwork. What the hell does she do? I additionally contemplate whether you 2 pronounced your roles interior the marriage and what you assume as far because of the fact the subject of the residing house, funds, the form you would be certain issues in the previous you obtain married? Discussing how we can stay in the previous we are married, and putting forward our expectancies is amazingly significant. yet, i assume that is by no potential too previous due. i'm a woman and additionally worked as much as 60 hours a week whilst my young infants have been starting to be up. I had a clean residing house, clean kitchen, not often grimy dishes interior the sink. washed each and every physique's clothing, took the infants to their applications, and had time for chum and a few exciting. once I have been given into mattress at evening i did no longer could scrape piles of junk off of it in the previous i could desire to get in, and once I went to the basement i by no potential had to holiday over piles of stuff on the stair way. one in each and every of my best puppy peeves is whilst human beings leave stuff throughout a stairway. Your spouse and me might have enormous issues! properly, the only answer i will arise with is to invite your spouse if she could make herself a catalogue of issues to do each and every day you artwork throughout the time of the week and concentration on that stuff... enable her be attentive to the form you experience relating to the conditon of the residing house and consistent with probability even ask her how she would be in a position to stand it herself? See what she says. help her make up a TO DO checklist if she hasn't a clue? You grant for you family members, and the least she would be in a position to do is discover ways to apply the washer and to maintain the kitchen in some variety of presentable state. If i've got been you? i might have a in advantageous condition... yet of direction, we the two be attentive to that may not help. good luck. she could rather have some magnificent charactistics in case you submit with residing in a catastrophe section. i'm hoping she gets issues circled!! she could even like it extra effective as quickly as issues are so as.
2016-11-03 00:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask her to lose weight, work out with her. Compliment her daily. You have to be creative in the way you do things, especially about womens weight. She may tell you she won't be offended by it but deep down inside it will cut her like a knife, trust me, been there. Then here comes more pounds.
2007-02-09 07:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't sound like you are asking her because of looks, so i don't think it's wrong. you are worried that she can't give your child and a new child the best attention and care becasue she does not have the energy and stamina anymore. i understand. but you just have to explain to her that you watn her around when the children grow up and you care about her health..but DO NOT compare herr to the other pseron..that is wrong!
2007-02-09 07:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Angeleyez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your wife to lose weight regardless of whether or not you adopt a child. Sounds like she's leading an unhealthy lifestyle, and it will only get worse as she ages. There are great weight-loss programs available to choose from, she could also see her doctor for suggestions.
2007-02-09 07:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋