Why are people friends?

Question

If you can give a more in depth answer it will be appreciated. Keep in mind how many close friends you have, first impressions, and what you have in common with your friends.

Also, let me know if I cannot quote you for academic purposes

Answer 1

I think attraction plays a big part in friendship. I am more likely to be friends with people who share my views or lifestyle or with people I find attractive on some level (not just physically). I tend to like only having a few friends, but really close ones. People are friends because they want people to talk to that understand them. They also want to make a difference in their friend's life. If their friend is similar to them, they will best know how to please them. Friends are a validation of ourselves. They support us, let us know we are OK how we are, give us someone to talk to and spend time with, and someone to laugh with and see life in different perspectives with. It is also just nice having history with someone. Your memories can be re-activated by your friends. In a sense, your friends keep your memories alive...and your memories are part of you.

Answer 2

People are friends for a number of reasons. The main thing tends to be for social aspects of life. People are social by nature, and th clearest way to be social is to have friends. Now in picking friends a number of things can come into play. People may become friends because they are intersted in the same things such as a hobby or a team sport.
Also, people become friends out of tragedies..for example 911, many people who may have known each other are friends because they went through such a tragedy together, or have something in common within the tragedy.
Personally, I tend to become friends with people who have common intersts with me, I tend to become close friends with people who have the same outlook on life that i do, and also the same morals, of course I don't expet a clone of me, but, if you don't have anything in common how would you stand each other long enough to become friends.
I have approximately 4 close friends, the things we have in common are we all had someone close to us suffer from alcoholism, we all have kids, we are all pretty crafty, we like garage saleing, we all have to watch the dollar so to speak, we have all had serious relationships end..some divorced some with people for 4 years or more.
Our kids are the around the same ages. We can be ourselves, thats the biggest one. We never have to pretend when things aren't all right nor to we have to hide anything, we always back each other up, and never have to worry about calling each other at 3 in the morning if need be.
I wouldn't chang them for the world.
We have known each other for a long time..Two of us go back 13 years.

Answer 3

Friendship is based on chemistry and trust…
And why it happens or why it rises and falls, and rises again, is a mystery;
like a fine piece of music.
Robert Louv


The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand,
nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship;
it is the spirited inspiration that comes to one
when he discovers that someone else believes in him
and is willing to trust him with his friendship.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

‘Maybe, he thought, there aren’t any such things as good friends or bad friends- maybe there are just friends, people who stand by you when you’re hurt and help you feel not so lonely. Maybe they’re always worth being scared for, and hoping for, and living for. Maybe worth dying for, too, if that’s what has to be. No good friends, no bad friends. Only people you want, need to be with; people who build their houses in your heart.’
Stephen King “IT”

Answer 4

Because the world can be a very lonely place, and as Joe Coker will tell you "we all get by with a little help from our friends". I can't give an in depth answer because I would be writing for days, but i think that one sentence sums it up well, for me.

Answer 5

Becoming friends with someone is falling in love. It is just not the romantic type of love.
When you meet someone who impresses you and they are easy to be around and you don't feel judged by them, the romance ensues. Over time, just like any type of love affair, as you grow to trust this person you realize that you do not need to hide anything about yourself from them. Love and trust make the friendship last.

Answer 6

For the same reason people are in any type of relationship with another human being, because that person has something they can give them that they feel they need to be whole, whether it be confidence, compassion, someone to confide in, or just a good time.

Answer 7

i many times realised that i have no true friends... it was me who wanted to carry on with friendship. i think people need help, that's why they rely on each other. you can also be friends with them because you would want to be like them. there are more reasons. now i have two best friends, but we had a couple of fights. its because people are very different. you can quote this if you like it would be an honour

Answer 8

I think people have friends so that they aren't lonely. I only have a few "close" friends, and we mostly have music and shopping and gossiping in common and 2 of them i met at concerts.

Answer 9

We are made of energy...I believe that what is lacking in myself in light energy I find that strength in my friends....the admiration that I feel for that person is the energy that shines bright in them whereas in myself the light/energy is weak. I have seen auras of people apart and they were normal but when together the energy became brighter and larger.....and they became happier as well.

If this fits with your quotable quotes, then quote.

Answer 10

Friends are people you feel comfortable being around and talking with. You can talk to them without too many inhibitions and can share activities which you both find interesting.