married and dating somone in another state
2007-02-09 06:51:56 · 43 answers · asked by maryland212202003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Choose the boyfriend or the husband before you end up with neither.
2007-02-09 06:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest dealing with your motives first. Do you really love either of them or just the challenge of juggling two people at the same time? Why don't you want a deeper more meaningful situation. In order to do what you are doing you can't go deep with either. Before you go any further you need to ask yourself why don't these people deserve better and why are you so sadistic to play with their feelings? Cut them both loose and tell them both what you have been doing. That exposure to their feelings will cause you to be more empathic and help you to straighten yourself out. I would suggest not to push going out with either of them any more and get a divorce. The other person deserves a better situation and also before you have a kid to complicate things. You have trouble seeing them as people and that is a dangerous place to be.
2007-02-09 07:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to see this happening, but you are not going to be happy with my answer.
What you are doing is a sin! You are a married woman. You should be with your husband, not cheating on him!
Probably need to let the out- of- state boyfriend go.
If you love your husband, do it.
Your husband will find out sooner or later.
P.S. There is a reason that you have asked this question here. It must be that you are seeking help. So get it!
2007-02-09 06:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by vgordon_90 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you asked yourself these questions: Why am I married? Do I really love my husband? If I don't love my husband, then why don't I file for divorce to be with my boyfriend? If I do love my husband, why do I even have a boyfriend? Your situation is a very selfish one. You should not have your cake and be able to eat it too. This little game your playing could be very harmful. Love makes you do some strange things. I really believe you need to grow up and make a serious decision about who you want to be with but somebody has got to go. Good Luck!
2007-02-09 06:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by 1DivineSistuh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip and be fair to your B/F, your Husband and yourself.
Either divorce your husband, or loose the B/F. Not only are you being very unfair to the men, but you are putting yourself in a stressful and volatile situation that will likely eventually blow up in your face. Sit down and do some serious soul searching as to which one you really want and choose, or you might wake up one day and find yourself with neither.
Make a choice. Good luck.
2007-02-09 07:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do remember your vows?! Marriage means one and only. It's called cheating. Get rid of the boyfriend or be honest with yourself and the man you married and tell him what you are doing. No man gets married to share-that's called dating. I sure hope you don't have any children in the middle of this mess you got yourself into.
2007-02-09 06:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you and the Boyfriend are together, I assume you mean you have left your husband... If not you have no business Cheating on your husband. You made a Commitment to him when you got married. The grass is not always greener on the other side..
2007-02-09 06:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the "having more than one partner" thing. It's good for your ego, and sometimes we need that. But it takes its toll on you, and it's totally unfair to both of the men. You need to do some soul searching and choose one or the other. You have no idea how relieved you'll feel. You won't have to lie to cover your tracks anymore, and you can devote your time to the one you love most. If neither of them is Mr. Right, get out of both relationships, but don't keep rationalizing your actions...IT'S JUST PLAIN WRONG.
2007-02-09 07:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have to choose one guy or the other. First, think in your husband. You made an eternal vow to stay with him forever. If you have a family, then definitely choose the husband. Cheating isn't right, and it isn't right to hide it. You are going to have to choose between one of the two.
2007-02-09 06:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by David H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding??? You don't deal with that situation. You change that situation. If you are married, then be true to your spouse and walk away from the boyfriend. Tell your husband and ask him how he wants to deal with it.
2007-02-09 06:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋