What is YOUR definition of a good marriage, and what can your wife do (please be specific) to make it that way?
2007-02-09 06:38:10 · 17 answers · asked by GIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Teamwork, mutual respect, and passion.
We work together on everything. We each have talents in different areas, and we each take the lead where our expertise lies. We discuss things openly. We share our goals and dreams. We plan how to get where we want to be from where we are.
We're honest. We don't want to stretch ourselves too thin, but we're both aggressive about success. We keep each other in line.
We laugh a lot!!
We don't hesitate to tell each other positive things.
We do hesitate being overcritical or mean. We empathize.
We are a team - working together toward a common goal. We've been together for almost 4 years and we've yet to have a fight. We simply get along.
It's not hard, but it's not easy. It's all a matter of being with someone who is a lot like you on the inside, but with different talents on the outside.
We just plain like each other, and would never do anything to hurt the other. Nothing good could come of it.
It's not always perfect, but it's pretty damn close. We are happy together, and we're willing to do what's necessary to keep it that way.
We give freely and accept graciously. We remember the good and forget the bad.
We cuddle a lot.
2007-02-09 07:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BALANCE! My wife and I are complete opposites, but we balance each other. She procrastinates while I am ready to get the job done. She hates to shop, and I love shopping. With our kids she speaks softly, while I carry the leather belt...relax, just a figure of speech.
OPEN MINDS! We come from different worlds, so when it comes to our future together and the futures or our kids, we listen to each other's thoughts. We don't say, "IT HAS TO BE THIS WAY BECAUSE I SAID SO."
SEX! Some guys may argue this, but IMO it is not everything. My wife works 6 or 7 days a week 12 to 16 hr days. When we do have time to be intimate, we go with the flow. If she has had a stressful day or week. I will satisfy her needs and then leave it at that. There are times you just want be romantic and other times you want to be animals.
The main thing is there is nothing one person can do? A good marriage is the result of good people working together!
2007-02-09 06:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by camdal8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. Put your marriage first, even in front of the kids. Kids have been known to play one parent against the other.
#2. Always live by the rules the two of you set into place. Have enough respect for your partner to at least do this.
#3. Always remember that your marriage belongs to only the two of you. The rules you make don't have to be like anyone else's. (I'm in an open marriage and we have a very strong relationship)
4. Your partner's happiness should be your most important concern, not your own.
2007-02-09 07:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compatibility keeps a marriage going after the emotional issues (love, passion) have settled in and the couple has to make a life together.
Say the man has been raised in a traditional family where his mother is a homemaker, he has a natural expectation of that to continue. And he is used to women as his peers at work. But if his wife has strong feminist inclination, then they are incompatible. This is just an example.
Compatibility allows both to evolve over time. As life deals them good and bad cards, not to mention temptations, can they work as a team and support each other? Or fight each other over everything and anything? Compatibility allows "give and take",respect instead of despise, tolerance and patience instead of complaints.
2007-02-09 07:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing a couple can do is to always think up ways to make the other happy.
Make your spouse's happiness #1. They will probably do the same for you.
Communicate. Understand. Let the little things go. LISTEN. Trust. Love. Have a good sex life.
Also - your marriage is #1.
#2 is kids.
#3 is extended family and careers.
Put your kids before your marriage, and the marriage will suffer badly.
2007-02-09 06:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A good marriage is when a good man and a good woman come together. The marriage should not be viewed as something that one can build or construct. A marriage is a relationship. A woman can do everything a woman is "supposed" to do in marriage, but that does not make the marriage good. If the woman is good and the man is good and both are trying to develop themselves, the marriage will be good.
2007-02-09 07:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good marriage is when two people are totally committed to each other and love each other unconditionally and are not selfish. My wife is very unselfish and giving. She loves me more then i deserve and she is patient and understanding with me. She is a good mother and a wife. She is fun to be with and she loves spending time with me. These are just some of her good qualities in our marriage. Yes i can say we have a good marriage.
2007-02-09 07:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think good marriage is good but happy marriage is the best. To be happily married means that husband & wife loves each other for good and bad times. Loving each other and fulfilling life to the fullest can bring both husband & wife happiness.
Wife must love, trust and respect your husband at all times. Never touch his utmost ego in bad shape; be it privately or in public.
Share your feelings, thinking, ways, character or your whole being with him and vice versa. It makes you feel the greatest wife on earth. Love the way that he cannot resist you. Hold him to his senses and up to his soul.
2007-02-09 06:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by FX777222999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always remember the vows you made during your wedding day. The most important is your patient, love, caresses, thrust, support, kindness, respect, considerate, sacrifices and thoughtfulness to each other @ all times. Basically treat each other how you want to be treated. When this fades away your relationship is no good, & your marriage will be headed for disaster.
Oh yeah, Lots of hot passionate sex too. Good luck!!!
2007-02-09 07:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a good marriage. What makes it good is communication and cooperation in everything. That includes cooking, cleaning and laundry. We don't keep secrets from each other. We don't play mind games. She doesn't ask me questions she doesn't want an honest answer to(like "am I getting fat?"). We carry this honesty and cooperation into the bedroom. We tell each what we want and need sexually and do our best to satisfy each other. We each devote time completely satisfying the other.
2007-02-09 06:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋